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Wednesday, December 29, 2010

Never outgrow love

A baby is born with a need to be loved - and never outgrows it!

We were made to love and to be loved. It is a deep and essential need.

Yet sometimes, we speak with scorn about people who appear emotionally needy. They seem immature. Aren't there areas where we are vulnerable and need, too?

Is maturity really a measure of our ability to hide our needs?

With open eyes with a sense of humour, we can find appropriate ways to received and give more love.

We begin with loving ourselves and grow from there, discovering we can love others with our own boundaries intact.

I will never outgrow my need for love, and I recognize and respect that those around me need love too.

Thursday, December 16, 2010



there are those who are so scrupulously afraid of doing wrong that they seldom venture to do anything.

Perfectionism can be paralysing.
Afraid to mess up, we find it impossible to try anything new.

Instead of limiting ourselves to a familiar routine where everything is under control,
we can be kind to ourselves and welcome the opportunity to learn and make mistakes.

Trying something new,
we're bound to be messy,
but we'll get so much out of it as we stretch our thinking.

It's fine for us to make mistake -
and we know we will as we explore the unfamiliar.

I will let go of my perfectionism at times so I am free to try something new.

Asking what if

Asking what if, a dreamer- you know- it's a mind that looks over the edge of things.

The day dreaming mind asks, "what would happen if...?'
It also doodles with thought, following no specific path.
Perhaps as children, we aware told not to daydream.

It was considered lazy.

The dreamer knows that much can be accomplished in that seemingly frivolous time.
The oldest musings bubble to the surface while daydreaming.

When we let our curiosity and creativity come out to play,
we increase the likelihood that we'll have clever ideas throughout out routine hours.

We need time to let our mind wander, dream, and wonder, “what if?”

Letting ourselves dream, we give ourselves permission to entertain any idea and possibility.

and you know what I've been up to today.....


Saturday, November 27, 2010

Dependence and self-reliance

To character and success, two things, contradictory as they may seem, must go together - humble dependence on God and manly reliance on self.

Focus only on getting help, and we begin to lose our sense of resolve and self-control. Focus only on self-reliance, and we become arrogant and merciless. It is not an either/or choice.

We need to be both dependence and self-reliant.

It's a little like walking, in quick turns, we used both left and right in equal measure. Similarly, we can be aware of the steady flow of both our vulnerability and our inner strength. With both, we stride toward success while strengthening our character.

I am equally aware of my need for divine guidance and my own strong resolve.

Focus on the remedy

Don't find fault. Find remedy! (Henry Ford)

Faults can be glaring, as if a giant spotlight is shining on them. We ,make progress when we deliberately open our focus to include all the resources available to remedy our faults.
Brainstorming, we consider any possibility in the hope of finding one that is feasible.

Then, we give ourselves permission to experiment. It will take trail and error. We will learn from mistakes, but, even while making mistakes, we have broken free of the narrow focus on the fault alone.

So when you see a problem in part of your life, be quick to look for ways to remedy it, rather than focus solely on the problem.

note to AH

Thursday, November 25, 2010

Stillness first

One's action ought to come out of an achieved stillness; not to be a mere rushing on.

Much of our busy-ness is just busy work. Once in a while, when we go on vacation or if we take a couple of sick days, we discover that the multitude of day-to-day tasks we hurry to complete can be set aside.

In the stillness, we find a creativity that often is sacrifice to the normal schedule. That creativity is aware of which decision and action really matter.
To rest and consider  - this is important to being human. Hurry begets more artificial rush and stress.

Stillness naturally yields wise action and contentment.

We have to have time to be still, to create a peaceful moment where we can think and ponder before deciding what we will do with our day.

Thursday, November 18, 2010

Accepting yourself

To accept ourselves as we are means to value our imperfections as much as our perfections.

It's easy to celebrate our strengths, yet in many ways we we only see our strength in light of our weaknesses.

We usually discover our imperfections as we interact in community and see other's strengths.

Our flaws are precious. By... taking care of ourselves, and through the kindness of our loved ones, we protect our imperfections and see them as part of our vulnerability and humanity.

We find ways to care for others in the areas where they are imperfect.

We have to value both our flaws and our strengths.

To me my weaknesses are precious quirks, I can learn to laugh about them and care for them gently.

Not knowing when the dawn will come, I open every door. I will look for and consider new possibilities, even if they seems a little odd. It may lead to the new dawn I seek. @_@

Monday, November 15, 2010

This is the time for soul searching.

This is not the time for finger pointing, being arrogant, or exerting self-righteousness.
This is the time for humility, self-reflection, and bonding for the sake of God.

This is the time for being calm and collected but determined and focused.

This is the time to side with truth and ...justice.

This is the time of looking inward into our spiritual mirrors.

This is the time for reorientation of our thoughts and emotions.

There is a real danger at this time that our emotions might take over and our sense of balance and the balance of sense might be lost. But remember! Vultures are hovering over us to take advantage of us or even to use this opportunity to tear us apart.

Global injustice prevails. Law of jungle seems to have taken over. ‘Might is right’ is being used as the norm. Poor and the weak are suffering. Truth is being sacrificed at the altar of prejudice and hatred.

This is not the time to indulge in useless arguments.

This is the time to burry our differences once and for all, and demolish any physical or mental or religious barriers that divide us.

War is being thrust upon us. If we remain steadfast and united, Allah guarantees our victory. If we don’t, then we will be on our own. Then Allah will not help us, no matter how much we pray for His help.

The only course we should adopt is the course of unity and balance based on reason and not on emotion.

Let us learn from the Quran the meaning of Siraat-al Mustaqeem, the straight and the most balanced way. We must maintain balance. Otherwise, we will fall.


Age cannot reach me where the veils of God have shut me in,
 For me the myriad births of stars and suns do but begin,
And here how fragrantly there blows to me the holy breath,
 Sweet from the flowers and starts and hearts of men
From life and death.

We are NOT old. O heart, we are NOT old.
 The breath that blows
The soul aflame is still a wandering wind
 That comes and goes
And the stirred heart with sudden raptured life a moment glows.

A moment here - a bulrush's brown head in the gray rain;
A moment there -  a child drowned and a heart quickened with pain;

The name of death, the blue deep heaven, the scent of the salt sea;
The spicy grass, the honey robbed from the wild bee

Awhile we walk the world on its wide roads and narrow ways,
And they pass by, the countless shadowy troops of nights and days
We know them not, O happy hearts, for you and I
Watch where within a slow dawn lightens up another sky

Sunday, November 14, 2010

Expressing All

It is only expressing all that is inside that purer and purer streams comes.

It might feel safer to keep some of our thoughts inside. Yet, as with any creative process, our spiritual growth often requires us to face, acknowledge, and find safe ways to express all that is inside.

Anger, fear and regrets are emotion that seems too dark to share with anyone. "I'm fine", we say to ourselves and others.

Keep inside those feeling can block the flow of growth and change.

There are useful ways to work through our darkest feelings. We can journal, or talk with a safe friend or counselor.

There maybe a physical exercise that expresses it better than words. Once the internal feelings are released, fresh, renewed thinking can flow.

We need to acknowledge the place in our soul that seem blocked. We will look at these areas and listen for any feelings we need to express.

Tuesday, November 9, 2010

Fearless focus

Become so wrapped up in something that you forget to be afraid.....that's what fearless focus to me.

We hear it in the voice of a hero interviewed at an accident scene. The reporter asks; 'but weren't you afraid?' Weren't they afraid of the flames, the car wreck, the steep terrain? The answer is always similar; 'no, i just did what anyone would do in the same situation. I didn't have time to be afraid or even to think.

This kind of focus doesn't need crisis to exist. There are many other moments that are not life-or-death scenarios, SUCH AS FACING A DEADLINE, A DAUNTING CREATIVE TASK, OR A COMPLEX RELATIONSHIP.

We can tap into a focus so strong that fear no longer clouds our judgment.
I hope in future, choose to focus wholly on this task or relationship so that we no longer have the space to fret over fears.

To live is so startling it leaves little time for anything else. It's easy to fill our lives with mundane and pretty urgency's.
Make time for life-filled activities first. It is pragmatic? Honestly, not always. A few to-do list item may get lost in the shuffle.
The adjustment may be awkward, but our life becomes richer, our mind more alert, and we are happier as we complete our other task.

Releasing all our concerns, we take this moment to reflect in wonder and gratitude - TO LIVE.

Monday, November 8, 2010

hard work

'it's too hard, maybe it's just not meant to be,' that's what I always told myself. It is the most common excuse to avoid an opportunity disguised as a challenge.

The silver platter arrives, it's placed on our lap, but what lies scattered atop is the upended contents of a puzzle - and it seems someone has made off with the box!

Potentially grand and beautiful yes, but suddenly we realize our dream is going to require thought and energy.

We can't let that moment of re-evaluation discourage us or cause us to shrink. Now is the time to commit wholly to the challenge.

We need to take care of ourselves physically, emotionally, and spiritually to ensure we have the energy and creativity to face what is at hand.

The challenge I am facing is different from others I've had. But, I know I have the skill and experience needed to succeed.


A single event can awaken within us a stranger totally unknown to us, maybe this is what they called self-discovery.

It could be a significant crisis or a joyful high point, or it could be a humble moment of clarity while taking an evening walk.

A drastic shift comes in our thinking and leaves us reeling with the choice of whether to become a new person or go back to the past.

How do we explain this new attitude to those around us? How do we explain it to ourselves?

The answers are not easy, but we know we will never be the same. Decisive now, we embrace our new identity and the internal and outward change it brings.

There were many events in my life that were completely out of my control. I see how those times have shaped, challenged and transformed me.

Some moments have been especially hard, yet I found the strength to grow through them.

I marvel at my story and at whom I am becoming.


'Many things are lost for want of asking'. Sometimes opportunities are close enough to touch, yet we shy away.

It seems too good to be true, or we're scared of taking the risk of speaking up. The worst that can happen, if we ask, is that we might be told "no". That's the same result as if we hadn't asked at all, so no harm done. Sometimes, however, we get what we ask for - but only if we make request.

When i have a request to make, I will be courageous and ask it. I might be told "no". But, i might be told "yes" and that can be life-changing.

Monday, November 1, 2010

Likeness and difference

There's space within sisterhood for likeness and difference, for the subtle differences that challenge and delight; there's space for disappointment and surprise.

We grow irritated at our loved ones' differences.

Why can't they see things the way we do?

But, their differences are what bring life and surprise into our relationship.

When we loosen the reins of control and let each other be individuals, ...we grow together and appreciate the similarities and contrasts, the joy and challenges.
My loved ones and I have a lot in common, we're different too. I'll give them room to be who they are.

Saturday, October 30, 2010

Take a deep breath

The first rule is to keep an untroubled spirit. The second is to look things in the face and know them for what they are.

Too often when we are troubled, we evaluate a situation and decide what our attitude and reaction ought to be. The circumstance determines our level of peace. The challenge looks stressful, so we feel stress and then begin to think from a place of fear rather than creativity.

Finding a foundation of peace first, before evaluating, is a better approach. It's not denying the facts, it's simply deciding to operate from a place of internal security instead of letting the facts rattle us.

Moving in that state of peace, we observe and assess, and then make our decisions with a clear mind.

I am safe, I am at peace, I recognize there will be many options for transforming a difficult situation into an opportunity.

Sunday, September 12, 2010


I set my heart on being all I can be.

In my heart, anything is possible.

In my heart I know things are going to work out for the best.

If you're pure of heart, you can bring anything to you.

No matter what seems to be going on around me, in my heart I'll know that I can do it!

Heart isn't just another word for emotions, the heart is a spiritual center.....it contains silence and wisdom.

Certainly the truest emotions, such as love and compassion, arise from this source. The heart is a place where the sense of "I am" resides.

This is the seed of inspiration from which all possibilities flow; it is our connection to the field of pure potential.

No one is a success who doesn't feel successful in his or her heart of hearts.

Wednesday, September 8, 2010


2:177(One consequence of this schism is their preoccupation with rituals, with each sect leaving the Revelation aside and taking delight in its own set of dogmas they call religion. 30:320.)

Righteousness and exponential development of the ’self’ depends not on whether you turn your faces to East or West. But righteousness is that:

- One has conviction in God,

- And the Last Day,

- And the Angels,

- �And the Book,

- �And the prophets.

- �And that he gives his cherished wealth to:

- �Family and relatives,

- �Orphans,

- �Widows,

- �Those left helpless in the society,

- �And those whose hardearned income fails to meet their basic needs,

- �Those whose running businesses have stalled,

- �The ones who have lost their jobs,

- �Whose life has stalled for any reason,

- �The disabled,

- �The needy wayfarer, son of the street, the homeless, the one who travels to you for assistance,

- �Those who ask for help, and

- �Those whose necks are burdened with any kind of bondage, oppression, crushing debts and extreme hardship of labor.

- �(And righteous are) those who strive to establish the institution of Salaat,� (2:3. 2:53)

- �And help set up the Economic System of Zakaat.

- �They are true to their pledge whenever they make one.

- �And they remain steadfast in physical or emotional distress and in times of peril.

It is they who have proven themselves to be true, and it is they who are living upright.

Wednesday, August 25, 2010

emmm priceless hearts - to wear your heart on your sleeve isn't a very good plan; you should wear it inside, where it functions best.

Our deepest thoughts and most vulnerable feelings are priceless; we must treasure them. Like locked diary or a private study, we only share them with certain people who have earned our trust; they will handle our heart with care.

In our public lives, it's natural and appropriate that we are a little more guarded and selective about what we disclose.

Honesty is one thing, but telling all to everyone is excessive. SO I will certainly carefully
choose to whom i entrust my heart.

Monday, August 23, 2010

There is a vitality, a life force, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all time, this expressionn is unique.

And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and be lost. The world will not have it. It is not your business to determine how goo...d it is; nor how valuable it is; nor how it compares with other expressions. It is yours business to keep yours clearly and directly, to keep the channel open.

You do not even have to believe in yourself or your work. You have to keep it open and aware directly to the urges that motivate YOU....

Keep the channel open......

No artist is pleased.....

There is no satisfaction whatever at any time

There is only a queer, divine dissatisfaction, a blessed unrest that keeps us searching, marching and makes us more alive than the others.
Friendship in adversity - Adversity not only draws people together, but brings forth that beautiful inward friendship.

Small emergencies and big crises alike have a way of bringing out the best in us. Whether it's a neighborhood rally around one of its own who is fighting cancer, or a nation coming together to help a re...gion devastated by natural disaster, there are inspiring stories of how resourceful and cooperative we can be.

Fighting for a common ideal, we bond toegther and communicate in greater depth. We find ourselves working alongside someone we wouldn't normally talk to and discover a new friend. Redemption and transformation can come about in the misdst of adversity.

I don't wish a hard time on anyone, but i am grateful for the unique redemption that only occurs during adversity.
‎'Many things are lost for want of asking'. Sometimes opportunities are close enough to touch, yet we shy away.

It seems too good to be true, or we're scared of taking the risk of speaking up. The worst that can happen, if we asak, is that we might be told "no". That's the same result as if we hadn't asked at all, so n...o harm done. Sometimes, however, we get what we ask for - but only if we make request.

When i have a request to make, I will be courageous and ask it. I might be told "no". But, i might be told "yes" and that can be life-changing.
My thought of the day........Having misunderstood soul is just as we often misunderstand God, we become disappointed when we cannot find it and dismiss it as an illusion, another fraud perpetrated by religion.

But soul is not a thing; it is a dimension of depth in a thing, so it seems to me. Like justness in a judge's ...decision, or beauty in a painting, soul is a quality of absoluteness in something relative....understood profoundly, people are connected to the holiness of the world in such a way that they reveal a dimension of holiness in themselves, a dimension of depth that is absolute.

The scared energies that smolder in us are a 'thoung of invisibles,' as psychologist.....

power that reveal themselves in our experience of the depth dimension, the holiness of the world.

To experience them we need a capacious imagination, intense commitment to living as creatively as possible, and deep attention to the inner qualities of our lives.

That depth defies measurement. What is required is personal experience, with deep conviction.

"I cannot see my soul, but know 'tis there."
Feelings, by contrast, put me in dialogue with the world.

As in conversation, I both learn from the world and contribute something to it through my feeling immersion in it.

I am not so radically separate from it - at moments, I may be completely identified with it.

To think a thought, any thought, we have to do it for a... time. as you read this sentence, you have to think it through yourself to understand what it means. You cannot stand outside it completely and just observe it.

Afterwards, of course, you can look at the thought and have your respond, but in the moment of understanding the sentence, there is no distance between you and the thought. YOU ARE AT ONE WITH IT!

Same thing like reading the Quran, the process is the same. So, we NEED time to think it through ourself to understand what it means, it will EXPLAINED itself to you.
God is love! No one said you had to like it or believe it.

If you like the song and it means something to you, that is wonderful.

Why does it have to be a fight what my interpretation is VS yours?

Just because someone believes in God, doesn't make them a fire breathing dragon.

And just because someone doesn't believe,... doesn't mean you are without a soul or feelings.

We are what we are.

Lets all try to get along while we are here on this Earth.
The adage that ignorance is bliss could not be farther from the truth when seriously put into practical application.

Throughout the annals of time, what great accomplishments has ignorance made? What great empires and what marvels of science and technology now bear witness to ignorance's strength and power?

That's right, none. Nothing of true worth is achieved without wisdom and knowledge.

It was with supreme knowledge that Allah, subhanahu wa tala, laid the foundations of the heavens and the earth.

It was with wisdom, knowledge and understanding that Soleiman, alayhe assalaam, ruled the greatest empire the world has ever known.

Our own Prophet, Mohammad, sallallaahu alayhe wa sallam, told us that acquiring knowledge was a duty placed on each and every human being.

But the knowledge of what and who, remains the question.

Ignorance is not bliss. Through it runs the deviant courses of innovation, shirk, disunity and hatred.

Knowledge is the key to our success. It give us the power to govern ourselves, our households, and ultimately our communities. A nation, which forgets why it was founded, who it serves and what its responsibilities are, by embracing ignorance, is a nation destined to fail.
Free man is by necessity insecure; thinking man by necessity uncertain.

Sometimes we are frightened by freedom. Though we are responsible for our choices, we have no control over many variables. The element of randomness in life can be unsettling.

We can arrange our plans and decisions perfectly, only to have them chan...ged in an instant. The more we think about decision, the more aware we become of contingencies. It can be overwhelming.

It is both humbling and invigorating to know we are responsible for the choices in our little part of the greater story.

We will navigate the contingencies and learn to use the changing tide to our advantage.

Our freedom results in a high degree of uncertainty. The future is not secure, but it is mine and yours to explore and navigate. So we will hold all our plans loosely.
Pray and take action - "Trust in Allah, but tie your camel." (Arabian Proverd)

We can lift all our concerns in prayer and release them to our higher power. It brings peace to know there are forces outside ourselves at work on our behalf. We're not alone.

We must not let that become as excuse for irresponsibility or laz...iness, however.

We are still active in our own lives and accountable for our own actions and omissions.

Release your concerns in prayer while calmly taking action wherever you can. That's the heart of serenity.
trusting yourself......as soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.

So much of our day-to-day tension and stress comes from our own uncertainties. We're not sure we'll make the right choice or that we will be able to complete the tasks at hand.

We worry about making mistakes. As we grow to trust our own cap...acity and ability to choose wisely, decisions are easier.

Life begins to be fun. The moment we quit scrutinizing ourselves so harshly and release ourselves to simply try, the path becomes clear.

Sooooo trust your judgment and your abilities. There are big choices ahead, but you have what it takes to make them and enjoy the process.
A responsibility to care, provision for others is a fundamental responsibility of human life.

Our most admirable moment are in times of trial, when one person sacrifices their time, resources, or safety to put another person first.

We don't have to wait for a major crisis to cultivate that attitude. Every day there are ...people on the planet struggling.

It's a privilege to reach out with whatever we have. as we help, we remember we are not islands; we all need each other.

It is our responsibility to look out for the needs of others. As we individually recognize this, we collectively begin to help heal the pain and need around us.

16/8 2010
emmmmm a new day and there will be another new day tomorrow and another the day after that and another and another...it will continue no matter what :-)

'snow endured but for a season, and joy comes with the morning'

Whatever we are going through, we know it will not last forever. There will be a new season, a fresh chan...ge. Meanwhile, we can take comfort in the miniature fresh start we have in each new day.

Strugglers and dull times come to an end. Whatever happened to you today, you can look forward to a new day tomorrow.

Just be thankful for the days and the seasons; they remind us that NOTHING lasts forever.

Resistance causes pain and lethargy. It is when we practice acceptance that new possibilities appear.

17/8 2010

Thursday, June 17, 2010

A Flock of friends

Fortify yourself with a flock of friends!  You can select them at random, write to one, dine with one, visit one or take your problems to one.
There is always at least one who will understand, inspire, and give you the lift you may need at the time.

Chances are, we have a few close friends whom we depend on as confidants. It's great to surround that inner circle with a larger group of diverse friendships, too.
When we have many friends in that second tier, we always have someone to go to. With a diverse social group, we can enjoy a wider range of activities, opinions and conversation topics.

You will grow and care for a wide group of casual friendships. Whether you feel like working out, eating a fine meal, or talking politics, you'll always know there is someone you can call for a little companionship.

Monday, May 24, 2010


Thanking, like thinking, is manna that cannot be stored. It lives in the moment of its own performance, or else it petrifies.
Thanking that has become lazy turns into the anxiety that you will lose what you have. This is no longer thanks; it is an aspect of insecurity, if not greed.
Thanking does not grab onto the gift , but simple delights in it. We can think of a gift - even if the gift is something intangible, like time itself - as wanting a hug from us, but not wanting to be chained by our affection.
Thanking leaves the gift free.

If we intensify our gratefulness sufficiently, it grows dense, like the other soul function, and becomes a self-sufficient activity.
We no longer need anymore to thank, or anything to be thankful for.
We become thanking itself, a part of the gratitude at the heart of creation and it is more than enough.

Wednesday, May 5, 2010

Reason, Season or Lifetime????

Reason, Season or Lifetime????

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a life time. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.

They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a Godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be...

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.

What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a season, because your turn has come to share, grow and learn. They bring you experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.

A lifetime relationship teaches you life time lesson, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationship and ares of your life.

Not everyone who comes into your life is supposed to stay there. Sometimes you're just a way station. Love them while they are there, love them when they move on, and trust that we all find our true home eventually.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Thank you for being part of my life, whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime

Monday, April 26, 2010

Holistic Life

Living well and beautifully and justly are all one thing.

We tend to compartmentalize our lives; work, personal, friends, spiritual, health, recreation.  Some days, it seems as if they all compete with each other.  It is best to let all our facets radiate from the core set of values.

act of justice and compassion can be personally enriching - and even fun!  Enjoying an athletic activity can be a good way to share a relationship with others.

Delighting in our work leads to a more playful attitude at home.  Creating a sustainable lifestyle helps our bank accounts while it reduces stress and offers spiritual transformation.

All the seemingly unrelated elements of life are actually closely interrelated, feeding and influencing each other
in a constant spiral.

I celebrate and encourage the interdependence of all my pursuits and desires.

Saturday, April 17, 2010

Unconditional Love

" My love is unconditional. It is its own reward. I removed the labels of 'friend' or 'enemy' from the people in my life, and extend my love to everyone."

Judicial robes are "one size fits all". They're easy to slip into, they're comfortable, and when you look into the mirror they make you seem very powerful and distinguished. It's always fun to don your robe and impose judgement on those around you. But it's also diametrically opposed to your own best interests.

As long as your human interactions are dominated by judgement and hostile evaluations, you yourself will be judged. As long as negative energy dominate your interaction, the light you can receive is limited accodingly.

Only by shading your judicial robe, only by offering love without limits to everyone - whether they "deserve" it or not - can you gain joy and fulfillment that are also without limits.

The light of fulfillment is there for you all the time, every day and every night, regardless of whether you're being 'bad' or 'good'. The force we call the Creator sees you at your worst moment and still emanates unconditional love.

If you can emulate that divine attribute - by offering love to everywhere, without reason- you'll receive it in return.

Always remind yourself of this vital insight.

Resisting Reactions

Your eyes can shift from love to hate, serenity to jealousy, in an instant. This happens everytime you react to a given situation.
The key to controlling your glances is found in a concept called RESISTANCE.

Namely, you resist the desire to react to instinctive impulses.

Not only does this action of resistance prevent you from casting angry or jealousy eyes at another person, it also helps you achieve your purpose in life.


Well, the moment you resist a reactive egocentric response, you find your true self - a proactive soul. That means you find the Light and fulfillment in that specific circumstance.

We you react you are not a creator, you are simply an effect. The person or situation that caused you to react is the cause, but when you resist reactions, you are now the cause of your emotion and the creator of your consciousness.

That means fulfillment is now free to flow to you. You just won a round of hide and seek. This, by the way
is the secret to getting all your prayers answered.

Friday, April 16, 2010

what IS LOVE....

Yes what is love?

no words can define it -

It's something so great

only God could design it.

Wonder of wonders,

beyond man's conception,

And only in God

can love find true perfection.

For love means much more

than small words can express,

For what man calls love

is so very much less

Than the beauty and depth

and the true richness of

God's gift to mankind -

His compassionate love.

For love has become

a words that's misused,

Perverted, distorted,

and often abused

To speak of light romance

or some affinity for

A passing attraction

that is seldom much more

Than a mere interlude

or inflamed fascination,

A romantic fling

of no lasting duration.

But love is enduring

and patient and kind

It judges all things

with the heart, not the mind.

For love is unselfish -

giving more than it takes..

And no matter what happens

love never forsakes.

It's faithful and trusting

and always believing,

Guileless and honest

and never deceiving.

Yes, love is beyond

what mankind can define

For love is immortal

and God's gift is divine.

sh note to AH 21 nov. 1998

Moving beyond optimism

Optimism, unaccompanied by personal effort, is merely a state of mind and not fruitful.

Positive thinking is a powerful force to fuel change.

But, optimism alone is just wood stacked in the woodpile.

We have to bring it inside, build a fire and tend it.

Otherwise, it remains no more than dry wood.

Like the wood, optimism has a shelf life. Life unused....it seems to rot.

We must keep it moving ....bringing in fresh fuel and using it up.

You will attach specific, achievable plans to your optimism attitude. Your optimism will be the fuel that gets things started.

The right time for decisions -

form a habit of making decisions when your spirit is fresh.....to let dark moods lead is like choosing cowards to command armies.

Unfortunate, when that dark mood sets in, we are prone to push the panic button and come to a snap

decision. Those panicky decisions tend to make more trouble - which only further darkens our mood.

We can train ourselves to do it differently. With gentle self-talk, we remind ourselves that we don't make large decisions when we're tired.....blue or hungry. It can wait until we are rested, centered and well fed. Good decisions produce better results.

Do not make serious decisions when you're spent. You'll wait until you can give the matter the clear thought that it deserves.

note to AH 25th Nov.09

Not for myself

Could you define love?

Could you describe it?

It is both feminine and masculine, and the fusion of man and woman is called " making love".

There are instinct that drive love, emotions that play with it, thoughts that try to guide it, commitments that consolidate it, convention that either liberate it or bind it hand and foot.

Civilization have come and gone, structures in society have evolved , patterns of behaviour have changed.

And love..........?
In its essence love has always been itself,
riding above the alterations that is found.
Always a mystery, yet known in its power.

Freedom and security

 Free man is by necessity insecure; thinking man by necessity uncertain.

Sometimes we are frightened by freedom. Though we are responsible for our choices, we have no control over many variables. The element of randomness in life can be unsettling.

We can arrange our plans and decisions perfectly, only to have them changed in an instant. The more we think about decision, the more aware we become of contingencies. It can be overwhelming.

It is both humbling and invigorating to know we are responsible for the choices in our little part of the greater story.

We will navigate the contingencies and learn to use the changing tide to our advantage.

Our freedom results in a high degree of uncertainty. The future is not secure, but it is mine and yours to explore and navigate. So we will hold all our plans loosely.

note to AH 23/01/10

Sunday, April 11, 2010

Stumbling through life

Stumbling through life, gazing at the stars, we can miss the greatest treasure beneath our feet. For the ordinary faculties of our soul - how we feel, how we act - are the rough and fallen forms of our highest
spiritual capacities.
There are 6 common abilities - thinking, feeling, doing, loving, opening, thanking - can be intensified infinitely.

We already think; we can learn to think more deeply, more livingly.

We already feel; we can learn to train our feeling - life away from ourselves so that we feel the world in  its richness.

We already thank; we can learn a depth of gratitude that makes life and love intensely real.

These exercises are simple, but demanding. By strengthening our capacity to pay attention, they allow us to
say the right word and have the fresh thought just when we need to.

They gradually lead us out of the mire of  distraction and confusion, and allow us to practice what we need most: continual presence of mind.

Friday, April 9, 2010


Focus on the aspects that you love and appreciate in another,

and take your attention off those that you don't.

What you focus on you magnify.

Turn away if you need to (so you don't get pulled into things you do not want to be in - and you know this by how they feel).

Again, realise that what you put your attention and time to, grows


Something brilliantly simple can teach us about relating,
 understanding and supporting one another, u have it built into u n so have I.

Our two hands.

See how they r with each other, how they relate.

There is grace and harmony in their togetherness, each has its own strength and weakness but they compensate and compliment each other.

They give us an ever-present yet ever-changing image of companionship,
togetherness and friendship.

And it all happens so silently that we take their skill at relating for granted.

There is a deep wisdom and a heart-warming dynamic in this mutuality that is inscribed in each of us!!!!!!!

Forgiving a friend

It is easier to forgive an enemy than a friend.

We expect a foe to hurt or offend us. They have history of doing that, and we would

be surprised if they didn't.

We forgive them simply to keep our own sanity; we don't want to be dragged down by bitterness.

If a trusted friend or loved one hurts us, it ...is much harder to forgive.

We keep returning to the disappointment and the breach of trust.

We expected them to be kind and understanding, to think of our needs - and they didn't.

It is important that we forgive our dear ones, so we can begin the work of rebuilding trust.

It's not easy to forgive when I've been hurt by someone I love, but the relationship is important to me.

I will practice forgiveness and be open to restoring trust.


The negative forces in the world  (EGO) seek to create anger and discord between people.

Unfortunately, that's not very difficult to do. Whether its a dispute about who pays the bills, who's first in the checkout line or who controls the TV remote, there's always an ample supply of things to argue about.

Until you are able to turn away from all that, you'll never see true joy and fulfillment - either in your life or in the world.

One of the most dangerous things about anger is the way there always seems to be such a good excuse for it.

You've been wrong, you've been hurt, you've been victimized - you've got every justification in the world for taking out your feelings on those responsible for your injustice.

The only trouble is when you do so, you ensure the continuation of chaos and negativity everywhere.

Always ask for the power to see beyond surface conflict to the deeper unity of all people.

Seeing the unity will fill your eyes with love instead of envy.

Wednesday, April 7, 2010

Risk and reward of 'love'

Age does not protect you from love but love to some extent protects you from age.

Love is risky. We sometimes conclude we know better than to try to increase our capacity to love.

The hurts that can be a part of the adventure of love leave us feeling old and weary.

Love has a will and existence of its own. It shows up at any age, knocking on the heart's door at the most surprising moment.

Then, when we are wise enough to resist the urge to hide and instead open the door, we discover that love makes us feel young again.

I am grateful for the way that love, in all forms of relationship and connection, keeps me feeling young.

Greatness in small things

I long to accomplish a great and noble task, but it is my chief duty to accomplish small tasks as if they were great and noble.

It's encouraging and humbling to hear such a courageous and inspiring individual make this claim.

What if we were to take this as a commission to carry out our daily tasks with renewed purpose?  What would happen to the quality of our work? Our days? Our life?

It's only when we take small tasks seriously, with honor and dedication, that we open ourselves to even greater possibilities.

As we learn and master small ventures, we ready ourselves for more - and we discover
greater meaning along the way.

I am entrusted with both great and small tasks. My respect and care in approaching a task is consistent, no matter what I am doing.

Faith in Others

We must have infinite faith in each other.

When we expect the best from others ,we help make it possible for them to be, do and create their best.

We've heard the example of the child who is told she is bad or untrustworthy; she rapidly begins to fulfill that expectation.

Conversely, when we give the same child a new responsibility, empower her to fulfill it, and then repeatedly
affirm that we trust her to carry out the task, it is likely she will.

Parts of us remain childlike and responsive to other's expectations throughout our entire lives.

It is an act of grace to have faith in the people around us, offering to hold open the door to their growth and transformation.

I have faith in others. I communicate that by telling them I beleive in their abilities and trust them to keep their word.

note to AH 8/4/2010

Tuesday, April 6, 2010

Keeping Steady

Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds
Or bends with the remover to remove;
O no; it is an ever-fixed mark
That looks on tempest, and is never shaken
                            (Shakespeare, Sonnet CXV1, I remember this for as long as I can remember)

Do you remember how you manage with your old-fashioned parents? What did you most want from them in those turbulent years when you started to find yourself?

Accept that your relationship with your children can seldom be very good during these years, but it can be good enough.
When things go wrong, take time to see why they did go wrong and learn from the experience.
Always be prepared to change your attitudes.
Examine yourself to see how you use your leisure, what props you require and on what you are dependent.

Your children will ask even more than this from you. You need to trust in the power that will guide them through this time; you can only do this by strengthening your own contact with the divine in yourself. And this means strengthening your inner life.

Work together as parents, sharing deeply your response to all that happens. Your marriage will take on a new richness through strengthening your teamwork, and your other children will thrive in the purposeful atmosphere of your home.

When you discuss anything with your teenage child, do so with due regard for the individuality that is emerging within them. Your regard will help their self hood to emerge, and what grows in them may prove greater than you ever expected.

An overall guiding word would be 'praise'. Praise every achievement, every evidence of growth in your son or daughter. But praise, too, their struggles and even their failures, for they point the way to achievement in the future. And don't only praise them; accept their praise for you when there is occasion for it.

I am still learning but this is my experience so far, hoping it will help you as it help me.
Life Lesson

Not everyone who comes into your life is supposed to stay there. Sometimes you're just a way station.

love them while they are there, love them when they move on, and trust that we all find our true home eventually.

Accept and welcome one's loneliness as a call to inwardness

Instead of running away from our loneliness and trying to forget or deny it,
we have to protect it and turn it into a fruitful solitude.

To live a spiritual life we must first find the courage to enter into the desert of loneliness
and to change it by gentle and persistent efforts into a garden of solitude.

This requires not only courage but also a strong faith.

As hard as it is to beleive that the dry desolate desert can yield endless varieties of flowers,
 it is equally hard to imagine that our loneliness is hiding unknown beauty.

The movement from loneliness to solitude,
 is the beginning from the restless sense to the restful spirit,
from the outward-reaching craving to the inward-reaching search,
 from the fearful clinging to the fearless play.

Monday, April 5, 2010

Take hold of happiness

Happiness hates the timid!
Our feelings can be influenced by circumstances outside our control. Over the long term, however, we have a large amount of choice about how we feel.
Our daily decisions to direct our inner thoughts towards sad matters or hopeful ones reinforce one emotion or the other.

Happy people tend to possess an ingrained habit of looking for the good in any moment; one bit of happiness creates more happiness.
it takes a strong will to direct one's thoughts in this fashion.

I boldly take hold of happiness and so must you. Whenever our thoughts turn sad or discouraging, we must insist on looking for one thing that we can be happy about and meditate on it. Our beautiful family, our sons, our daughters and  friends around you.

You are your own greatest encouragement.

note to AH  and Aunty Tila 5/4/10

Saturday, April 3, 2010

I Make My Life Rich

To wait for someone else, or to expect someone else to make my life richer or more satisfying, puts me in a constant state of suspension.

We may beleive in a fairytale ending; someday an event or a special person will make us truly happy.
Waiting for a nebulous happily-ever-after can leave us waiting forever, stuck in a state of wondering,
" what if? "
Opportunities remain undiscovered and a new activities remain untried.

It's up to us to create the life of our dreams.  Once we commit to that, our interactions with others and the gifts we happen upon can double the richness that was already there.

I don't have to wait for more money or time or someone else's action.  There are small steps I can take to create a more satisfying life right now.

My 7 Spiritual Laws

My 7 Spiritual Laws

1) Everything is possible

2) If you want to get something, give it

3) When you make a choice, you changed the future

4) Don't say no - go with the flow,

5) Every time you wish or want, you plant a seed

6) Enjoy the journey

7) You are here for a reason

I wrote these simple saying one day in my hospital bed, alone just me And my son, a few days after I had Adam. I want him to know the journey that we are taking together and something for him to remember me by. when he turns these pages.

I didn't pause to think much about what I wrote, but it just hit me afterward. If I have been taught just

these 7 sentences as a child my life will be profoundly different. I would have known something precious

and practical at the same time. Something that would have not faded as a childhood lesson but would have ripened into mature spiritual understanding year by year.....

The deepest nurturing you can give your child is spiritual nurturing - should be conveyed not as a rule or rigid precept but AS YOUR OWN WAY OF LOOKING AT LIFE.

Hopefully with these skills,

he will be able to answer the most basic question about how the universe works;

he will understand the source of creativity both within and outside himself,

he will be able to practice non judgment, acceptance and truth,

which are the most valuable skills anyone can possess for dealing with other people and will be free from the crippling fear and anxiety about the meaning of life that is the secret dry rot inside the hearts of most adults, whether they can admit it or not.

Stairway of Surprise

Stairway of Surprise

6 steps to a creative life







- all these can be intensified infinitely.

We already think; we can learn to think more deeply, more livingly.

We already feel; we can learn to train our feeling-life away from ourselves so that we feel the world in its richness.

We already thank; we can learn a depth of gratitude that makes life and love intensely real.

There is something extra about the human soul. We have more than enough in us, perhaps too much.

Human are capable of endless creativity and distortion. We are the least predictable thing in creation.

Our very essence is surprise.

Simply represent intensification of inner functions that we all know we need to develop. We all could benefit from thinking with less distraction, more concentration, more invention. We all have difficulty in carrying out our intentions (doing). We all could benefit from turning our self-oriented emotions outward and understanding the world through feeling.

If we are honest, we admit that we can become more loving and so throw the weight of our awareness on the side of Good. Through opening or freedom from prejudice, we could find ourselves more available to the intuitions at the basic of this world and the intuitions still waiting for us to realize them.

We already sense that the moment of thanking makes us intimate with the source of what is given.

Thinking comes first since it is at the basic of all we do; every decision and every act and every understanding. We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts we make the world.

By strengthening our capacity to pay attention, they allow us to say the right words and have the fresh thought just when we need to. They gradually lead us out of the mire of distraction and confusion and allow us to practice what we need most; continual presence of mind.

Only a few people are willing to climb such a stairway. For those who do, it always helps. A stairway goes nowhere unless someone climbs it. And only you can begin....

Sayang's note to AH on the 5th of Sept. 2009

He'll be OK

'What is the definition of a good man?',

'What is the essence of being male?' and

'What does it mean to be a young man in today's world?'.

A life of purpose reveals the purpose of life.

You can never be wrong about destiny. Whether you succeed or not, you are proven to be right.

The universe has a purpose - the fulfillment of human creativity and happiness.

Don't judge your life. Every life is a step towards unity with God.

Don't struggle to find out why you are here - just look closer.

With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams.....it is still a beautiful world.

Be cheerful and strive to be happy!

note to AH 8/10/09

The One Thing That You cannot Do Without

The One Thing That You cannot Do Without

As a parent, what is the one thing you cannot do without? Most people would automatically say "love,"

which is certainly right. But then you have to ask a deeper question, "Where does love come from?"

By itself, the bond of love isn't enough, because it frays and sometimes breaks. We all raise our children according to what we call love, yet today's young people still have horrendous problems.

I think it goes deeper than love, the one thing you can't do without is INNOCENCE. Innocence is the source of love, innocence, as I am defining it here, isn't naivete but quite the opposite..........OPENNESS.

Innocence is the knowledge that you can guide children but never control them. We must be open to the person within every child, a person who is bound to be different from you, with a peaceful heart.

Life is never certain and your child are guaranteed to go in directions you cannot predict, to do things you would never do. Uncertainty is a given, because life is nothing but change. In innocence you can accept this, been telling myself - you will let go of your need to make your children conform to your preconceived notions.

I think, innocence is the knowledge that your child is yours and yet not yours.

Everyone is ultimately a child of spirit, we all grew up belonging to a family, but this is a very loose kind of belonging. Mostly we belong to ourselves, which means to our spirit or soul or essence.

It is easy to say that every child is unique and precious but what really makes it true is innocence, being able to look at a child as a soul embarked on the journey of soul-making. This means giving up some deeply imprinted patterns about parenting.

The most good we can do for ourselves spiritually is to play our role as parent with total love, conviction and purpose.

I think some people may argue against this whole nation, but every parent has had moments when the look in a child's eye told a tale of infinite wisdom, of experiences that go far beyond this particular moment in time and space. I know this has been true with my Adam. I've put him to bed, read stories to him, thrown a ball around and sat proudly through his violin and play recitals. The whole time I was doing this, I was a mummy and he were the kids.

But there have been other, rarer moment when the whole facade fell away. I've seen my son give me a glance that said," here we are again. What an interesting game we're playing this time." And I've seen him smile in such a way that I just knew he was on the verge of laughing out loud at the masks I've have put on to keep our roles alive.

In those precious glances and smiles I felt the bond of innocence, which is more powerful than love because it transcends love. When we can see past the role playing and still act our role with love and dedication, then I believe we are truly spiritual in your approach to parenting.

As parents, then, when we teach our children is no different from what we must keep teaching ourselves

Doing Good for the sake of doing good!

Doing Good for the sake of doing good!

People are unreasonable, illogical and self-centered.

Love them anyway.

If you do good, people will accuse you selfish with ulterior motives, I've been there

Do good anyway.

If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.

Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.

Do good anyway.

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.

Be honest and frank anyway.

The biggest person with the biggest ideas can be shut down by the smallest person with the smallest mind.

Think big anyway.

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight, am sure you heard of this.

Build anyway.

People really need help but may attack if you help them.

Help people anyway.

Give the world the best you have and you might get kick in the teeth.

Give the world the best you've got anyway.

Being You

Being You

If you can compare yourself with others,
you may become vain or bitter,
 for always there will be greater and lesser person than yourself.
 Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
 Keep interested in your own career, however humble, it is a real possession in changing fortunes of time.


What is it with boys?

Last night I drove into town for a meeting or at least tried to, and the situation with young men once again thrust into my face. Three cars ahead of me, the Parkway was blocked. A sedan, driven by a seventeen-year-old boy, with 4 friends in the car, had attempted to pull out into the traffic but failed to see a truck coming from behind. The truck had crushed the car almost in half and carried it fifty meters along the road. As I watched, 7 emergency vehicles gathered; fire, rescue, police, ambulances. Men worked in teams, calmly dealing with the situation.

The young driver was gradually cut out of the wreck unconscious. His 4 male passengers had varying injuries. Maleness was everywhere - inexperience and risk on the one side; competence, caring and steadiness on the other.

It kind of summed up for me the male situation. Men, when they turn out well, are wonderful.....but being young and male is so vulnerable, so prone to disaster. When I see Adam today, I have my hearts in my mouths - how will he turn out?

Today it's the girls who are more sure of themselves, motivated, hard working. Boys are oftern adrift in life, some failing at school, awkward in relationships, at risk for violence, alcohol, drugs and so on, here in Australia. They can't wait to be 18, the legal age of drinking.....how sad is it, that that is the one thing that they so looking forward to once they're into manhood.

The differences start early - visit any pre-school and see for yourself. The girls work together happily; the boys 'hoon' around like Indians around the wagon train. They annoy the girls and fight with each other.

In primary school the boys' work is often sloppy and inferior. By the time they reach grade three, most boys don't read books any more. They speak in one word sentences: ' Huh?' 'Awwyeah!' And in high school they don't join in with debating, concerts, councils or any non-sport activity. They pretend not to care about anything and that 'it's cool to be fool'.

Teenage boys are quite unsure about relationships and how to get girls to like them.( not that I am encouraging Adam, there's plenty at the moment who want to be his friend) This came from a friend who have 3 teenagers in the house. Some become painfully shy, others are aggressive and unpleasant when girls are around. They seem to lack even the most basic conversation skills.

And the bottom line, of course, is safety. By fifteen years of age boys are three times more likely than girls to die from all causes combined - but especially from accidents, violence and suicide.

Being a complete person

What do we wish for or what do I wish for and need? To me a right relating to myself needs to come first.

It is not easy to attain fulfillment. We have to work hard on ourselves to become well-directed, focused person, able to cope with events as they occur and to transform setback into valuable experiences that broaden the scope for future achievement. Anyone who strives for fulfillment will realize that this requires a process of self-development.

A basic need is a sense of purpose. This may sound obvious, but how many of us can make a clear statement about the purpose of our life? Platitudes come easily to our mind, but they are only vaguely related to our aspirations; they are no substitute for belief in the purpose of our own individual existence and trust in our ability to accomplish it. They can only develop out of our own discerning sense of destiny.

Can we read the signs in our biography that reveal our mission? The place where we were born, the family, the clime, the formative events that have unfolded in our biography so far, the rhythms and repetitions that have patterned our life-story, the events that have helped or hindered our progress, our gifts and weaknesses, our doubt and confidence, the conflicting goals of our ambition....all these spell out the message that point the way to our own life-task.

Nothing special will be achieved if we set goals for ourselves but fail to marshal the force and sharpen the skills that can attain them. This is a matter of will power - the will is a mysterious force in the human

soul. It can all too readily be enthralled by our habits and predilections....indeed also by addictions and so be largely unfree , it needs our devoted effort to wrest it free from these unconscious constriction.

This requires constant motivation and application, only through self-motivation can we achieve mastery conscious aspiration over the unconscious drives within us.

The way to personal fulfillment will remain close to us until we reach a clear sense of purpose and self discipline to guide us to our soul energies.

Contentment and fulfillment requires a balance in the feelings so that we do not loose control.

note to AH 21 Nov. 2003


When someone does kindness,

it always seems to me

That's the way God up in heaven

would like us all to be

For when we bring some pleasure

to another human heart

We have followed in His footsteps

and we've had a little part

In serving Him who loves us -

for I'm very sure it's true

That in serving those around us,

we serve and please Him too

note for AH


I have come to believe over and over again that what is most important to me must be spoken,

made verbal and shared, even at the risk of having it bruised or misunderstood.

It is vital to put our thoughts. When we have an important decision to make, we often say "I need to talk this through," or "I need a sounding board." Our beliefs and values come to life and become more tangible when we speak them or write them down in hope of sharing them.

When we keep our thoughts inside, its almost like we're hiding. So, we take the risk and speak. Afterwards, not only does the other person know more about us, we know more about ourselves.

I choose to speak my thoughts on what matters to me. It might be hard to find the right words, and the other person might not understand but it is worth the effort to share who I really am.

And character grows from habit! Character is simply habit long enough continued.

Persist in a certain practice for a couple of weeks and it becomes habit.

Persist in it for a couple of months and it becomes hard not to do it.

Keep at it for a couple of years and it changes who we are.

Whatever the habit, good or not so good, it is a part of us - an expression of our values.

How do others describe us? Picky, fun-loving, casual, charming, fickle, introverted, honest or intense?

Others come to their conclusions about us through observing our habits.

My character is a composite of my habits. I will decide carefully about embracing new habits, breaking old ones and choosing those I want to maintain.

note to AH 20th & 21st NOV. 2009

Another door open

When one door closes another opens. But we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door
that we fail to see the one that has opened for us.

Lingering in our regret is self-defeating. When we loose an opportunity or it becomes clear that a certain plan will not work, it's disappointing but we need not be consumed by the loss. There are other possibilities. Perhaps we've overlooked an option. Perhaps someone we know has a great idea. We can

take all that energy we might have given to disappointment and use it to begin searching for the other open door. We will notice it sooner if our gaze is up and our attitude expectant.

It's fine to feel disappointed when something doesn't work out, but you need to keep your antenna up and alert to alternatives.


Something brilliantly simple can teach us about relating, understanding and supporting one another, you have it built into you and so have I.

Our two hands.

See how they r with each other, how they relate.

There is grace and harmony in their togetherness, each has its own strength and weakness but they compensate and compliment each other.

They give us an ever-present yet ever-changing image of companionship, togetherness and friendship.

And it all happens so silently that we take their skill at relating for granted.

There is a deep wisdom and a heart-warming dynamic in this mutuality that is inscribed in each of us!!!!!!!

The Human Curtain - Ego!!!!

The curtain called ego is a multi-layered fabric, woven by every egocentric action and deed. The layers in this fabric include anger, jealousy, rage, worry,anxiety, intolerance, prejudice, resentment,frustration, pessimism and selfishness....you name it.
Clearly ego is the foundation of all forms of envy. It compels you to convince others that you're right when you're wrong.
Ego gives you the illusion that you act freely, but in reality you are captive to its desires.When ego express itself as envy, you're held hostage to constant pressure to out do your friends and colleagues.
You're in bondage to your reactive whims and self-absorbed desires.
You are captive to your job and financial pressures. You're a prisoner to other people's perceptions of you. You're incarcerated by your need for other people's acceptance.
You're in prison and you don't even know it.

The Human Ego - the curtain!!!!

Clearly, ego is the foundation of all forms of envy. It compels you to convince others that you're right even when you are wrong.

Ego gives you the illusion that you act freely, but in reality you are captive to its desires.
There you have it, plain and simple.
Ego does such a good job in hiding all the Light, including your true self (your soul), that you have forgotten and lost touch with all the true desires that radiate from your innermost being.

Instead, you are governed and ruled by the whims of ego. You work around the clock to fulfil its desires, no matter how shallow or self-destructive those desires may be.

These egocentric impulses control us 99.999 percent of the time. And if you have a difficult time believing this to be true the curtain is doing its job extremely well.

As a result, with the Light hidden, with our souls concealed, we flounder around in a world of darkness - one so dense that we can't see the hidden cause of our problems.

Until now.

Clearly, ego is the foundation of all forms of envy. It compels you to convince others that you're right even when you are wrong.

Ego gives you the illusion that you act freely, but in reality you are captive to its desires.


Thursday, February 11, 2010

comfortable with ourselves

'the worst loneliness is not to be comfortable with yourself'

To be alone is not necessarily to be lonely. We may feel lonely even within our relationships if we are not comfortable with ourselves.

When we take time for solitude, we can grow in our ability to feel comfortable in our own skin. Like any skill, this takes practice.

Sometimes, when we're not happy with ourselves, we look to other people to fill our time and keep us entertained.

There is rich contentment that comes from a self-accepting solitude.

We take that contentment with us when we return to our relationships with others. It brightens and energizes all our interactions.

So please take time to practice solitude, to learn to be comfortable alone as well as in your relationships.

Tuesday, February 9, 2010

thought for others

' Be unselfish....if you think of yourself only, you cannot develop because you are choking the source of development, which is spiritual expansion through thought for others.'

If self-awareness is an integral part of spiritual development, awareness of others is its close companion. They balance each other and propel us forward.

Too focused on ourselves, we can grow miserable operating with only our own energy and insight.

Too focused on others, we grow codependent, needing them to give us identity.

We grow by balancing our own needs with those of others. We take care of ourselves, but live a rich life of service and love.

If I get too focused on myself, I start to feel drained, even when I'm not
giving much. Maybe the best thing I can do is a small caring act for someone else. It might make their day, and it will help me get out of my own rut.

Friday, January 29, 2010

Sound body, sound mind

' To keep the body in good health is a duty.....otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear.'

When we don't take care of our physical health, problems can crop up. We find ourselves distracted by sickness, poor energy and aches and pains.

Keeping ourselves healthy is about more than avoiding the mental distraction of discomfort. The requirements of good physical health - nourishment, rest, movement - empower our minds, too.

Creative thought, problem-solving, and a calm attitude are enhanced by the same actions that meet our physical needs.

If I'm too busy to care for my body, it will likely affect my thoughts, too. taking the time to eat well and exercise will sharpen and strengthen my mind as well.

Tuesday, January 19, 2010

small action, big impact

We are here to change the world with small acts of thoughtfulness done daily
rather than with one great breakthrough.

The world's troubles hang heavy on our shoulders. The evening news can be an overwhelming glimpse into pain and suffering. How can we even begin to make a difference? Being overwhelmed can leave us paralyzed, doing nothing because it all just seems too big.

All it takes is a quick shift of focus to the one small thing that we can do right now. That small thing - a cup of tea or coffee for your co-worker, a hug and word of encouragement to a loved one and acquaintances, a small gift to a favorite charity - can mean the world to the recipient.

It also opens us up, helps us stretch and tends to release a wellspring of even more simple, gentle and meaningful acts.

My thoughtful actions won't save the whole world but they may make s real difference for a few people right now. That matters.

Sunday, January 17, 2010

responding to criticism

Criticism may not be agreeable, but it is necessary. It fulfills the same function as pain in the human body. It calls attention to an unhealthy state of things.

Criticism feels uncomfortable, and it may take effort to sift through it and discern whether the critical words were well founded. Or maybe they were undue and harsh, indicating that the 'unhealthy state of things' was in the speaker's hand. Often, it's a mix of both.

Deciding how we'll respond - whether we'll make a change, ignore it for now or request that the other cease and desist - are all difficult choices.

In any event, the experience gets our attention and makes us a little more alert to our situation and relationships.

O don't enjoy hearing criticism, but I appreciate the wresting, learning and growth that comes as a result.

Saturday, January 16, 2010

the daily grind

Most of our life is routine - dull and grubby, but routine is the mountain that keeps us going. If you wait for inspiration you'll be standing on the corner after the parade is a mile down the street.

Routine can be so boring, yet, to achieve a goal or foster a certain attitude
we must create a routine. Not only do we do our basic self-care each morning, we also write for half an hour in a journal because we've notice it puts us in a better mood for the rest of the day.

When we have a year long project, we know we can break it down into routine bite-sized portion that we complete each day.

Routine is the frame work we use to keep our pace and take our lives in the direction we've chosen.

Routine isn't bad, to me some routines have really helped me, like going for my morning walk..... I felt terrible if I miss it, its like waking up at the wrong side of the bed.

So try it and I will continue to use and adjust my routine to create a life that works well for me.

Friday, January 15, 2010

feeling grumpy

' We have no more right to put our discordant state of mind into the lives of those around us and rob them of their sunshine and brightness than we have to enter their houses and steal their silverware.'

We have a bad day, and boy, do we feel grumpy!
At home or with friends, we take it out on those around us. Soon they're having a rough day, too.

That's not fair to them. It's fine to let people know we're feeling off, sad, or frustrated. It's not right to destroy their day just because ours
isn't going right.

We must use self-control to deal appropriately with our emotions. We can learn to laugh at our circumstances and at ourselves.

With that attitude, we can transform a bad day into a good one - for us and for our loved ones.

I have bad days sometimes. That's normal and I will be careful not to bring everyone else down too.

Sunday, January 10, 2010

Right Now and enjoy life

Be in this moment. There has always only been NOW.

The present moment is significant, not as the bridge between past and future, but by reason of its contents, which can fill our emptiness and become ours if we are capable of receiving them.

The mind is constantly simmering with thoughts. Usually, these are thoughts about what has already happened or what we need to do next to fulfill a want or need.

Once in awhile, we are present in the right now. We have experienced those rare "moments of being," perhaps as we conversed with a loved one, enjoyed nature or participated in a creative or athletic activity.

Completely present, we lose track of time. We discover this moment is all we need.

I will rest into this moment right now and enjoy life.

All animals except human being know that the principle business of life is to enjoy it.

Animals live purely in the moment. We've all seen how a dog greets his master with unabashed joy or marveled at wild animals playing, seemingly for the sheer fun of it.

Other creatures know intimately the stress of immediate survival but we human appear to be the only ones capable of worry. We create our own internal stress over things we can't control and that may not even come to pass.

How much happiness do we forfeit in the face of imagined treats?

It is a release to remember to breathe, look around ourselves and recognize
all the good in our lives. While having real struggle, fear, or sadness, it is wise to find the joy in the middle of it.

See and experience all the beauty and pleasure in our life right now and do one activity tomorrow just for the fun of it.

Thursday, January 7, 2010

Whole-hearted help

'never reach out your hand unless you're willing to extend an arm'

Token helpfulness isn't often appreciated. We see the problem, we want to help but we don't really want to commit too much to it - and then we stop short of actually doing anything.

Those involved wonder why we even bothered. Did we really care???

If we wish to help, we must give it some thought and decide on a specific way we can make a difference.

Time is short and finances may be limited, but if we want to get involved...
it is best if we have a clear intention.

So if you want to help someone, make sure you'll do it wholeheartedly.
Whether to give your time, a donation or provide a listening ear, be completely present and expect that you may need to follow up afterwards too.

Sunday, January 3, 2010

Fate and free will

Life is like a game of cards. The hand that is dealt you represents determinism; the way you play it is free will.

Are our life determined by fate??? Or do we master our own destinies?
If we take an honest look at our path to this point, it seems like a colourful mix of both.
This thought will unnerve any philosophical purist but how else can we explain our experience?

There are moments that appear to be orchestrated by powers outside us. We've been baffled by challenges and mercies alike that have transformed us and made us who we are today.
Then, there are just as many moments when the choice was in our hands, and our act of will made a real difference.

I don't understand providence and synchronicity. I know there are events and forces out of my control.
But,I will be diligent about the "cards" that are in my hand. I'll play as wisely as I can.

Friday, January 1, 2010

One life to live

Most of us spend our lives as if we had another one in the bank.

There is only one life that we can influence and guide - the one we're living right now. Regardless, we often waste time or spend it poorly.

We may fashion a budget that reflects our beliefs and values, we can do the same with our lifestyle and schedules. We need to check in with ourselves occasionally to see weather we're budgeting our lives appropriately.

How do we spend our days? What is our attitude? Is our lifestyle aligned with our beliefs? Answering those questions, we can adjust as needed, ensuring that we live our lives well and thoughtfully.

I can only make choices that influence my life as I live it right now. I will be mindful how I use my time and affect my surroundings.