"Faith, acts promptly and boldly on the occasion, on slender evidence."
It's comforting to choose a path that seems well-lit and predictable. But, once in a while, we seem to know with inexplicable confidence that it's time to take a risk.
Moving in faith takes a joyful heart and willingness to surrender perfectionism. Those leaps, both big and small, bring us to a new level of living, thinking and loving.
These 'magic' moments are priceless, when we feel that
everything is just perfect!
They can happen often or infrequently depending
mostly on how much our mind gets in the way.
What a shame if we don't recognise
them or allow them to change us.
Surprise, surprise… happy people live their lives
differently. They don’t have different lives. They just do a better job at
living them than those who are unhappy.
Happiness is the result of subjective interpretation of
perception. Of course, what we perceive isn’t always done so by choice life does
throw things our way.
These are the thing that I hold dearly and close to my heart,
the key to my happiness....
Don’t bother trying to make others like you mainly because I
don’t care if I am liked, I do what I do because I decided to do it.
I am not trying
to gain your approval or acceptance.
I don’t want to be part of your team I am
a team of my own.
I live my life the way I see fit and if you like me for it,
great. If not… then so be it.
I do things because I want to do them, not because I believe
I have to do them. No one coerced me or tricked me into doing it because I
value my opinion above everyone else’s. I do what I believe is right and don’t
bother to ask for permission.
I love all my friends but I do not rely on them.
tricky because they aren’t really yours, are they?
You don’t own them.
their own people who have their own wants and needs people who will always put
themselves ahead of you and your goals.
Friends are great to have, but relying
on them too heavily will leave you disappointed. Those who live happy lives
have very close friends, but they keep their independence in order to avoid
It’s the lack of independence and over-reliance that often comes
to ruin friendships, all relationships for that matter.
The most important thing to me is I have my own
philosophies, my own life reason that I created and live by. I do NOT need a book to tell me how I ought to
live my life.
I can live my life by whatever philosophy I wish, as long as I found
truths that satisfy me.
I have a strong grasp of right and wrong and am my own
I embrace my impermanence. I know I am only mortal, having
this knowledge and accepting it fuels my every step. You will too. Why?
it is inevitable.
There is no way of avoiding it, only dealing with the fact. The
happiest of people don’t fear death.
They don’t do their best to avoid it.
see it as the inevitability that it is in and live their lives by their terms.
They may not be able to control death, but they know they sure as hell can
control their own personal lives.
The world is your playhouse and your mind is your conductor.
I don’t believe there is a single way that the world is a single reality that
Instead, I believe I am the originators of my reality and have full
control over how I interpret what I perceive. I see the world the way I choose
to see it because I do understand the power such a skill has.
We all live in a
reality of our own construction.
Some of us just construct our realities better
I live in the moment, but dream in the future.
have hopes, dreams and goals.
I have wants and aspirations, but I don’t allow myself
to get caught up and lost in them.
There isn’t so much a time and place for
dreaming as there is a maximum allotted amount recommended.
You can’t live life
doing nothing more than looking towards the future because you’ll miss the only
time that things actually matter or exist: the present.
The present, the
immediate moment is the only moment that you can actually live in.
The rest is
only an illusion.
I don’t bother changing others, but instead learn how to
deal with them appropriately and I know when to walk away.
And most of all I love meeting new people and having new
We surround ourselves with distractions to convince
ourselves otherwise and we embellish certain events to justify long periods where
nothing really happens.
We set different life goals to give ourselves something to
look forward to and either reward ourselves for reaching them, or
reason for why we didn’t and to think about the nitty gritty details that make
up our lives and see if I can get a sense of what it’s all about.
Which makes me occasionally think I am insane now when I
feel like nobody else questions what they are experiencing or what they think
You can only heal your heart with your heart, and to do that we have to open the heart wide enough for its healing elixir to rain down on our pain. Why bury the tears that heal us? Why bury the emotions that fertilize our expansion? Emotional release is a potent way to regain a genuine experience of the moment. Tears clear the dirt from our heart so we can see the path clearly. Let our quest for spiritual expansion begin with emotional authenticity. Nothing to hide, nowhere to hide it. Writing in India today after a fantastic week in Nepal. Right now it is 3. 35 am, I could not close my eyes for I cannot wait to scrutinize this beautiful place. Feels so good to feel the beat of the city holding the space for my creativity. Now and then, I look up at the people coming in and out, walking past, and I endeavour to see them through empathic eyes, wondering "What are you struggling with?"; "What are you feeling in this moment?", "How are we the same?" When I was younger, I just saw differences and threats, and sometimes, I still do. But, more often than not, I see friends on a shared journey of remembering. Not a day goes by when I don’t feel challenged and distracted by an old pattern, another test, a false- path that holds temptation. I don’t think it’s a simple question of ﬁnding our sacred purpose and owning it every moment. I think we are always pulled off of it and have to remember. Forget, remember, forget, remember. It’s just that the remembering gets easier over time.
You know of someone who needs healing. So you sit in the silence holding them up to the light. And then other names come to mind and you add them in.
But this is simply the first step in healing.
The second step is the last step. You enter the silence, remembering that the nameless formless one in us all need not be healed, only remembered.
The human struggle to change the human situation is doomed. Doing does not get the job done. Being consciousness answers the dilemma of doing your bit to heal the universe.
Just remember yourself.
This is easier said than done. For we are automatons in action. After all, we were raised to
“go about doing good.”
No one told us we were falling into the mental trap of how we should be.
In essence we are eternally whole.
And that’s the truth.
Do nothing but be.
And healing the planet happens without your knowing anything about it.
Because of all the pressure to be partnered, so many people walk around feeling badly if they are on their own, and many others stay where they don’t belong for fear that they will be seen as a failure outside of relationship. Surely all of this misses the point. What is most important is that each of us lives a life that is true to path, whatever that means to us. For some, their sacred purpose is inextricably linked to love relationship. It is there that they excavate their deepest meaning. Yet others are called in a different direction and find their purpose in their creative life, in their work, in their individual spiritual practice. Everyone’s soul-scriptures are unique to their own journey. The important thing in life is not whether we find the “one”, but whether we find the path. If one person doesn't want the relationship, then it's simply not a fit. No sense trying to figure out why we think they don't want it. No sense blaming it on their commitment issues. No sense waiting around for them to realize they wanted it after all. Because it doesn't matter why they don't want it. What matters is that we want to be met heart-on by a fully engaged partner. If they don't want it, then we don't want it, because we don't want to be with someone who is not there for it fully. That's the thing about love relationship - it's an agreement that has to be signed by both souls. If one doesn't sign, then nothing has been lost. If it's not a fit for them, it's not a fit for us either. On to the next adventure we go... However love arrives at your door, it is always a brave path. It is like talking a long walk in a deep dark forest and never quite knowing where your soul will land. It is not for the faint of heart, nor is it ever to be taken lightly. You have to be tenacious. You have to be innovative. You have to be willing to drop to your knees time and again before its wisdom. And you have to forge the tools you will need from your own imaginings, as very few who have walked the path before can describe the terrain. Most fell into quick-sand soon after the romantic phase ended. Relationship is always a spiritual practice, even when we imagine it otherwise. ps/smoh
Lets get real about the ole "What we judge in others is a direct reflection of what exists within ourselves" routine. To be sure, there is value in considering how we are projecting our own stuff onto others- that is a wise inquiry- but not every negative judgement we feel is sourced in our own stuff, or in our soulular memory of past life misbehaviours. Sometimes we are appalled by certain behaviours because we have evolved to the point where we can distinguish good from bad, healthy from unhealthy, benevolent from malevolent. Do you know who planted the anti-judgement mantra with the world? Gurus who wanted to deflect responsibility when they were not living up to their professed standards. You call them on their stuff and they turn the mirror right back on you. It all comes back to good ole common sense. Sometimes we are projecting, and sometimes we are seeing things exactly as they are. Pick your path.. NB: Sometimes it has nothing to do with mirroring or reflecting your own deep seated issues. Sometimes it only has to do with the values you choose to live by. There's a HUGE difference between judgement & discernment. A kind and compassionate oriented person is often very naive to the ways of a selfish and cruel personality and needs to learn how to have boundaries and deliver consequences.
Forgiveness is one of the primary mantras preached by the
ungrounded spirituality movement. This is not to say that forgiveness is a bad
thing, but it is not the first place to go after an abusive relationship or
Putting our focus on forgiving a wrongdoer before we have
actually worked through our anger and our pain is another way the new age
movement sidesteps their own unresolved shadow and the principles of
When it comes down to it, healing and forgiving ourselves is
the important step. If forgiveness of other arises organically, so be it. If it
doesn’t, it’s not important.
We are not responsible for those who wound us.
They can take that up with God.
Healing is required for real forgiveness to stick otherwise
an exercise in futility. Resentment, anger, victimization sticks around and
hides in the recesses of the heart, first things first.
Forgiveness can never be forced...it seems to be more like a
state of compassion for the other when you have finally released the attachment
to the pain.
Forgiving doesn't mean you forget it, or let it happen
again....but forgiveness is more a true part of the process of healing, not
separate from the healing.
I have learned that forgiveness is for the forgiver.
Forgiving doesn't mean we have to be "buddies" with the person we are
forgiving. Hence the term “forgives and forgets". We don't forget the
wrong, we forget the person we have forgiven. Try no longer have power over us.
Healing and forgiveness are both intertwined. It's not as
simple as A leads to B, which equals C. There are layers of forgiveness and
healing - sometimes you think you've healed, forgiven and you are
hunky-dory...only to have something happen which brings up new layers of
'stuff' that show you that you still have more to do.
We cannot really forgive if we don't even fully acknowledge
that we have been hurt. But still, there is relief when you did not fully
acknowledge feeling hurt and tried to maintain a strong face is was beneficial
at times to forgive too soon.
Forgiveness releases the forgiver from stress. The fuller
the forgiveness the fuller you can appreciate the blessings however small or
even painful they may be. The fuller the forgiveness, the freer you are from
"egotistic" feelings and the accompanying needs of those feelings.
So without going through a process of healing, I would think
it would be impossible to truly forgive anyway.
We label everything and everyone - the plants, the animals, the stars, even our own intimate feelings. "Sadness", we call it. "Anger". "Fear". "Boredom". "Confusion". These are second-hand words picked up when we were young. But underneath the labels, prior to the abstract language, there is a profoundly alive mystery here, unspeakable, unable to be captured by thought. Without our mind-made descriptions of experience, do we really have any way of knowing what we are experiencing?
Take away the label 'sadness', and what is alive here? Take away the description 'anger', and what is this raw, passionate energy we feel? Stop calling an emotion 'positive' or 'negative', and what happens? Come back to the raw sensation of life, the present-moment dance of the body. What is this unfiltered, dynamic, raw life energy? Can we touch life before the labels? Who would touch it? Who would be separate from it? This is the river of life, my friends, sacred, intimate, familiar, and we are inseparable from its flow. Every thought, sensation, feeling, image, is infused with the mystery of universes. ps/smoh
Many people believe that their thoughts don’t really matter. They think that their thoughts don’t matter as long as they don’t act on their negative thoughts. What they fail to realize though is that everyone’s thoughts contain certain energy patterns. Physicists are now proving that your thoughts actually do have power; they are not just harmless little things that don’t matter.
Heraclitus knew this many centuries ago. He tells us that your thoughts have an effect on your soul. He goes on to say, “The content of your character is your choice. Day by day, what you choose, what you think and what you do is who you become. Your integrity is your destiny… it is the light that guides your way.” Your thoughts are much more important to your character development than you may suspect.
Thought precedes action. Many scientists today believe that if you continue to think about something, what you think about will eventually find a way to manifest itself in your life. If this is true, it means that what you think about is extremely important. It has already been proven that your thoughts control your emotions; thus to control your emotions, which every warrior must do, you must control your thoughts.
Controlling your thoughts is the ultimate test of your self-discipline. Once you get to the point where you can control your thoughts, you will be well on your way to mastering the warrior lifestyle. Control your thoughts and you control your destiny. ps/smoh
You get a new chance to start over, every single day. Take this chance to get your life right, if it isn't already. Just know that each day comes to you as a clean slate. It presents itself to you fresh and allows you the opportunity to make a firm decision to live this day to the fullest, and to move toward whatever goal you want to achieve.
The NOW is all that you truly have and it is up to you what you are going to do with it. Every goal that you could possibly want to achieve is possible, starting from where you currently are. Take this new day and start on the path of fulfilling your goals and living life to the fullest, with honour and integrity.
Your positive future begins the moment that you make a firm decision to change your path, and there is no better time to make that decision that NOW. If not now, when?
If someone attacks your character or your reputation, it really does very little good to enter into an argument over their accusations. Many times you only make things worse by addressing their attacks. In fact, this is a common ploy used by people of low character to bring attention to themselves when they are not deserving of attention. They will attack someone who is well known or someone of reputation just to get some attention. It is an example of the old adage, “No publicity is bad publicity.”
The best way to handle such an attack is to ignore it. Don’t add more fuel to the fire. Live your life in such a way that your reputation precedes you and that those who know you will defend your reputation without you having to get involved. Convincing the world by our character. Let your own character defend you. By making the ideals of the warrior lifestyle a reality in your life, you are allowing your character to speak for you.
Of course this takes time. This is why you should strive to build and maintain the reputation of a being of honour and integrity. Once you have achieved a reputation as a being of character, and that reputation is built on a solid foundation, not on lies, then it will be hard for someone to successfully attack your character. The key here is that your character is true. You must live the warrior lifestyle, not pretend to live it. There is a big difference here. Build character, not the illusion of character. Be a true person you are born to be!.
Do you want to be a person of honour, integrity and character? Then you have to act like a person of honour, integrity and character. Not just once and a while, not just when you are in a good mood, not just around people who you consider important, but all the time. You have to get into the habit of living a life full of honour. It don’t just happen automatically. You have to practice it and work at it. Sometimes you have to just plain grit your teeth and do it despite your feelings, until the time when acting with honour and integrity becomes automatic.
Aristotle also tells us that excellence is an art form and that it is acquired by training and repetition. You do not do the right thing because you have virtue, but rather you have virtue because you do the right thing. Your actions and intentions form your character.
Later, when your character has been formed and becomes a habit, it determines your actions. The person we are must be careful to make our actions and intentions right. We has to make a habit out of this until we has perfected our character. Once we has begun to perfect our character, acts of honour and integrity come naturally, without conscious thought. When we get to this point, living a life of excellence will become our nature. Our actions determine who you become. ps/smoh
A person can’t really be virtuous without being sincere. Without sincerity, there is no honour or integrity; there is only a charade, played out for others to see, and for the benefit of the actor. Many people want to be seen as having these virtuous character traits without having to put forth the effort that is required to actually have them be a part of their lives. Their agenda is not to perfect their character, but rather to perfect their appearance. They are interested in all of the benefits that come from having an honourable name, but not in the discipline that it takes to become honourable.
The key ingredient that is missing in these people is sincerity. They are not sincere, and without sincerity, there is no virtue, even if there appears to be virtue. An honourable person must be able to distinguish between a person of virtue and the person who only appears virtuous. Unfortunately, the majority of the people we meet will fit into the latter category. Many people love to read and talk about honour, integrity, and character, but they don’t really apply these virtues to their own life.
Don’t be like the person who only appears honourable; be honourable. Be sincere in your quest to live an honourable lifestyle. Make these virtues a part of who you are, not because of the external benefits, but because of the internal benefits that come from being a man of virtue. Take your life seriously and take your character seriously. If you don’t, you will falter when the chips are down and your back is against the wall. You must be sincere in everything you do
Suddenly, for whatever reason, while walking down a familiar path, you notice that the destination has become more important than the journey itself. Your urgency to reach the goal has pushed every precious step out of focus. You have been walking blindly, unconsciously, not really present to your walk, mesmerised by a future, disconnected and alone, walking down a familiar path.
The focus then shifts, from the imagined future scene of the movie of your life, to the present scene, here, now. From what is not present, to what is present. You feel your living body again, the thumping of your heart, the breath going in and out, the softness of the ground underneath your feet, the gentle breeze on your face; you hear the rustling of trees all around and the barking of dogs in the distance. You feel supported, again, connected to everything and everyone. Life has been exploding everywhere, but you were focussed elsewhere, in some other time and place. You notice tension and tiredness all over your body, tightness in your shoulders and chest. You forgive yourself for neglecting yourself. You bring warm, loving presence to these neglected parts, and this allows the tension to relax and dissolve in its own time. You are relieved to be Home again, present to your walk. Your hopes and fears about the future pale in comparison to this immediacy, this aliveness. You will get to your destination, perhaps. But right now, the walk is everything. Every step is reminding you how to live. Every breath is a little guru.