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Monday, April 26, 2010

Holistic Life

Living well and beautifully and justly are all one thing.

We tend to compartmentalize our lives; work, personal, friends, spiritual, health, recreation.  Some days, it seems as if they all compete with each other.  It is best to let all our facets radiate from the core set of values.

act of justice and compassion can be personally enriching - and even fun!  Enjoying an athletic activity can be a good way to share a relationship with others.

Delighting in our work leads to a more playful attitude at home.  Creating a sustainable lifestyle helps our bank accounts while it reduces stress and offers spiritual transformation.

All the seemingly unrelated elements of life are actually closely interrelated, feeding and influencing each other
in a constant spiral.

I celebrate and encourage the interdependence of all my pursuits and desires.

Saturday, April 17, 2010

Unconditional Love

" My love is unconditional. It is its own reward. I removed the labels of 'friend' or 'enemy' from the people in my life, and extend my love to everyone."

Judicial robes are "one size fits all". They're easy to slip into, they're comfortable, and when you look into the mirror they make you seem very powerful and distinguished. It's always fun to don your robe and impose judgement on those around you. But it's also diametrically opposed to your own best interests.

As long as your human interactions are dominated by judgement and hostile evaluations, you yourself will be judged. As long as negative energy dominate your interaction, the light you can receive is limited accodingly.

Only by shading your judicial robe, only by offering love without limits to everyone - whether they "deserve" it or not - can you gain joy and fulfillment that are also without limits.

The light of fulfillment is there for you all the time, every day and every night, regardless of whether you're being 'bad' or 'good'. The force we call the Creator sees you at your worst moment and still emanates unconditional love.

If you can emulate that divine attribute - by offering love to everywhere, without reason- you'll receive it in return.

Always remind yourself of this vital insight.

Resisting Reactions

Your eyes can shift from love to hate, serenity to jealousy, in an instant. This happens everytime you react to a given situation.
The key to controlling your glances is found in a concept called RESISTANCE.

Namely, you resist the desire to react to instinctive impulses.

Not only does this action of resistance prevent you from casting angry or jealousy eyes at another person, it also helps you achieve your purpose in life.


Well, the moment you resist a reactive egocentric response, you find your true self - a proactive soul. That means you find the Light and fulfillment in that specific circumstance.

We you react you are not a creator, you are simply an effect. The person or situation that caused you to react is the cause, but when you resist reactions, you are now the cause of your emotion and the creator of your consciousness.

That means fulfillment is now free to flow to you. You just won a round of hide and seek. This, by the way
is the secret to getting all your prayers answered.

Friday, April 16, 2010

what IS LOVE....

Yes what is love?

no words can define it -

It's something so great

only God could design it.

Wonder of wonders,

beyond man's conception,

And only in God

can love find true perfection.

For love means much more

than small words can express,

For what man calls love

is so very much less

Than the beauty and depth

and the true richness of

God's gift to mankind -

His compassionate love.

For love has become

a words that's misused,

Perverted, distorted,

and often abused

To speak of light romance

or some affinity for

A passing attraction

that is seldom much more

Than a mere interlude

or inflamed fascination,

A romantic fling

of no lasting duration.

But love is enduring

and patient and kind

It judges all things

with the heart, not the mind.

For love is unselfish -

giving more than it takes..

And no matter what happens

love never forsakes.

It's faithful and trusting

and always believing,

Guileless and honest

and never deceiving.

Yes, love is beyond

what mankind can define

For love is immortal

and God's gift is divine.

sh note to AH 21 nov. 1998

Moving beyond optimism

Optimism, unaccompanied by personal effort, is merely a state of mind and not fruitful.

Positive thinking is a powerful force to fuel change.

But, optimism alone is just wood stacked in the woodpile.

We have to bring it inside, build a fire and tend it.

Otherwise, it remains no more than dry wood.

Like the wood, optimism has a shelf life. Life unused....it seems to rot.

We must keep it moving ....bringing in fresh fuel and using it up.

You will attach specific, achievable plans to your optimism attitude. Your optimism will be the fuel that gets things started.

The right time for decisions -

form a habit of making decisions when your spirit is fresh.....to let dark moods lead is like choosing cowards to command armies.

Unfortunate, when that dark mood sets in, we are prone to push the panic button and come to a snap

decision. Those panicky decisions tend to make more trouble - which only further darkens our mood.

We can train ourselves to do it differently. With gentle self-talk, we remind ourselves that we don't make large decisions when we're tired.....blue or hungry. It can wait until we are rested, centered and well fed. Good decisions produce better results.

Do not make serious decisions when you're spent. You'll wait until you can give the matter the clear thought that it deserves.

note to AH 25th Nov.09

Not for myself

Could you define love?

Could you describe it?

It is both feminine and masculine, and the fusion of man and woman is called " making love".

There are instinct that drive love, emotions that play with it, thoughts that try to guide it, commitments that consolidate it, convention that either liberate it or bind it hand and foot.

Civilization have come and gone, structures in society have evolved , patterns of behaviour have changed.

And love..........?
In its essence love has always been itself,
riding above the alterations that is found.
Always a mystery, yet known in its power.

Freedom and security

 Free man is by necessity insecure; thinking man by necessity uncertain.

Sometimes we are frightened by freedom. Though we are responsible for our choices, we have no control over many variables. The element of randomness in life can be unsettling.

We can arrange our plans and decisions perfectly, only to have them changed in an instant. The more we think about decision, the more aware we become of contingencies. It can be overwhelming.

It is both humbling and invigorating to know we are responsible for the choices in our little part of the greater story.

We will navigate the contingencies and learn to use the changing tide to our advantage.

Our freedom results in a high degree of uncertainty. The future is not secure, but it is mine and yours to explore and navigate. So we will hold all our plans loosely.

note to AH 23/01/10

Sunday, April 11, 2010

Stumbling through life

Stumbling through life, gazing at the stars, we can miss the greatest treasure beneath our feet. For the ordinary faculties of our soul - how we feel, how we act - are the rough and fallen forms of our highest
spiritual capacities.
There are 6 common abilities - thinking, feeling, doing, loving, opening, thanking - can be intensified infinitely.

We already think; we can learn to think more deeply, more livingly.

We already feel; we can learn to train our feeling - life away from ourselves so that we feel the world in  its richness.

We already thank; we can learn a depth of gratitude that makes life and love intensely real.

These exercises are simple, but demanding. By strengthening our capacity to pay attention, they allow us to
say the right word and have the fresh thought just when we need to.

They gradually lead us out of the mire of  distraction and confusion, and allow us to practice what we need most: continual presence of mind.

Friday, April 9, 2010


Focus on the aspects that you love and appreciate in another,

and take your attention off those that you don't.

What you focus on you magnify.

Turn away if you need to (so you don't get pulled into things you do not want to be in - and you know this by how they feel).

Again, realise that what you put your attention and time to, grows


Something brilliantly simple can teach us about relating,
 understanding and supporting one another, u have it built into u n so have I.

Our two hands.

See how they r with each other, how they relate.

There is grace and harmony in their togetherness, each has its own strength and weakness but they compensate and compliment each other.

They give us an ever-present yet ever-changing image of companionship,
togetherness and friendship.

And it all happens so silently that we take their skill at relating for granted.

There is a deep wisdom and a heart-warming dynamic in this mutuality that is inscribed in each of us!!!!!!!

Forgiving a friend

It is easier to forgive an enemy than a friend.

We expect a foe to hurt or offend us. They have history of doing that, and we would

be surprised if they didn't.

We forgive them simply to keep our own sanity; we don't want to be dragged down by bitterness.

If a trusted friend or loved one hurts us, it ...is much harder to forgive.

We keep returning to the disappointment and the breach of trust.

We expected them to be kind and understanding, to think of our needs - and they didn't.

It is important that we forgive our dear ones, so we can begin the work of rebuilding trust.

It's not easy to forgive when I've been hurt by someone I love, but the relationship is important to me.

I will practice forgiveness and be open to restoring trust.


The negative forces in the world  (EGO) seek to create anger and discord between people.

Unfortunately, that's not very difficult to do. Whether its a dispute about who pays the bills, who's first in the checkout line or who controls the TV remote, there's always an ample supply of things to argue about.

Until you are able to turn away from all that, you'll never see true joy and fulfillment - either in your life or in the world.

One of the most dangerous things about anger is the way there always seems to be such a good excuse for it.

You've been wrong, you've been hurt, you've been victimized - you've got every justification in the world for taking out your feelings on those responsible for your injustice.

The only trouble is when you do so, you ensure the continuation of chaos and negativity everywhere.

Always ask for the power to see beyond surface conflict to the deeper unity of all people.

Seeing the unity will fill your eyes with love instead of envy.

Wednesday, April 7, 2010

Risk and reward of 'love'

Age does not protect you from love but love to some extent protects you from age.

Love is risky. We sometimes conclude we know better than to try to increase our capacity to love.

The hurts that can be a part of the adventure of love leave us feeling old and weary.

Love has a will and existence of its own. It shows up at any age, knocking on the heart's door at the most surprising moment.

Then, when we are wise enough to resist the urge to hide and instead open the door, we discover that love makes us feel young again.

I am grateful for the way that love, in all forms of relationship and connection, keeps me feeling young.

Greatness in small things

I long to accomplish a great and noble task, but it is my chief duty to accomplish small tasks as if they were great and noble.

It's encouraging and humbling to hear such a courageous and inspiring individual make this claim.

What if we were to take this as a commission to carry out our daily tasks with renewed purpose?  What would happen to the quality of our work? Our days? Our life?

It's only when we take small tasks seriously, with honor and dedication, that we open ourselves to even greater possibilities.

As we learn and master small ventures, we ready ourselves for more - and we discover
greater meaning along the way.

I am entrusted with both great and small tasks. My respect and care in approaching a task is consistent, no matter what I am doing.

Faith in Others

We must have infinite faith in each other.

When we expect the best from others ,we help make it possible for them to be, do and create their best.

We've heard the example of the child who is told she is bad or untrustworthy; she rapidly begins to fulfill that expectation.

Conversely, when we give the same child a new responsibility, empower her to fulfill it, and then repeatedly
affirm that we trust her to carry out the task, it is likely she will.

Parts of us remain childlike and responsive to other's expectations throughout our entire lives.

It is an act of grace to have faith in the people around us, offering to hold open the door to their growth and transformation.

I have faith in others. I communicate that by telling them I beleive in their abilities and trust them to keep their word.

note to AH 8/4/2010

Tuesday, April 6, 2010

Keeping Steady

Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds
Or bends with the remover to remove;
O no; it is an ever-fixed mark
That looks on tempest, and is never shaken
                            (Shakespeare, Sonnet CXV1, I remember this for as long as I can remember)

Do you remember how you manage with your old-fashioned parents? What did you most want from them in those turbulent years when you started to find yourself?

Accept that your relationship with your children can seldom be very good during these years, but it can be good enough.
When things go wrong, take time to see why they did go wrong and learn from the experience.
Always be prepared to change your attitudes.
Examine yourself to see how you use your leisure, what props you require and on what you are dependent.

Your children will ask even more than this from you. You need to trust in the power that will guide them through this time; you can only do this by strengthening your own contact with the divine in yourself. And this means strengthening your inner life.

Work together as parents, sharing deeply your response to all that happens. Your marriage will take on a new richness through strengthening your teamwork, and your other children will thrive in the purposeful atmosphere of your home.

When you discuss anything with your teenage child, do so with due regard for the individuality that is emerging within them. Your regard will help their self hood to emerge, and what grows in them may prove greater than you ever expected.

An overall guiding word would be 'praise'. Praise every achievement, every evidence of growth in your son or daughter. But praise, too, their struggles and even their failures, for they point the way to achievement in the future. And don't only praise them; accept their praise for you when there is occasion for it.

I am still learning but this is my experience so far, hoping it will help you as it help me.
Life Lesson

Not everyone who comes into your life is supposed to stay there. Sometimes you're just a way station.

love them while they are there, love them when they move on, and trust that we all find our true home eventually.

Accept and welcome one's loneliness as a call to inwardness

Instead of running away from our loneliness and trying to forget or deny it,
we have to protect it and turn it into a fruitful solitude.

To live a spiritual life we must first find the courage to enter into the desert of loneliness
and to change it by gentle and persistent efforts into a garden of solitude.

This requires not only courage but also a strong faith.

As hard as it is to beleive that the dry desolate desert can yield endless varieties of flowers,
 it is equally hard to imagine that our loneliness is hiding unknown beauty.

The movement from loneliness to solitude,
 is the beginning from the restless sense to the restful spirit,
from the outward-reaching craving to the inward-reaching search,
 from the fearful clinging to the fearless play.

Monday, April 5, 2010

Take hold of happiness

Happiness hates the timid!
Our feelings can be influenced by circumstances outside our control. Over the long term, however, we have a large amount of choice about how we feel.
Our daily decisions to direct our inner thoughts towards sad matters or hopeful ones reinforce one emotion or the other.

Happy people tend to possess an ingrained habit of looking for the good in any moment; one bit of happiness creates more happiness.
it takes a strong will to direct one's thoughts in this fashion.

I boldly take hold of happiness and so must you. Whenever our thoughts turn sad or discouraging, we must insist on looking for one thing that we can be happy about and meditate on it. Our beautiful family, our sons, our daughters and  friends around you.

You are your own greatest encouragement.

note to AH  and Aunty Tila 5/4/10

Saturday, April 3, 2010

I Make My Life Rich

To wait for someone else, or to expect someone else to make my life richer or more satisfying, puts me in a constant state of suspension.

We may beleive in a fairytale ending; someday an event or a special person will make us truly happy.
Waiting for a nebulous happily-ever-after can leave us waiting forever, stuck in a state of wondering,
" what if? "
Opportunities remain undiscovered and a new activities remain untried.

It's up to us to create the life of our dreams.  Once we commit to that, our interactions with others and the gifts we happen upon can double the richness that was already there.

I don't have to wait for more money or time or someone else's action.  There are small steps I can take to create a more satisfying life right now.

My 7 Spiritual Laws

My 7 Spiritual Laws

1) Everything is possible

2) If you want to get something, give it

3) When you make a choice, you changed the future

4) Don't say no - go with the flow,

5) Every time you wish or want, you plant a seed

6) Enjoy the journey

7) You are here for a reason

I wrote these simple saying one day in my hospital bed, alone just me And my son, a few days after I had Adam. I want him to know the journey that we are taking together and something for him to remember me by. when he turns these pages.

I didn't pause to think much about what I wrote, but it just hit me afterward. If I have been taught just

these 7 sentences as a child my life will be profoundly different. I would have known something precious

and practical at the same time. Something that would have not faded as a childhood lesson but would have ripened into mature spiritual understanding year by year.....

The deepest nurturing you can give your child is spiritual nurturing - should be conveyed not as a rule or rigid precept but AS YOUR OWN WAY OF LOOKING AT LIFE.

Hopefully with these skills,

he will be able to answer the most basic question about how the universe works;

he will understand the source of creativity both within and outside himself,

he will be able to practice non judgment, acceptance and truth,

which are the most valuable skills anyone can possess for dealing with other people and will be free from the crippling fear and anxiety about the meaning of life that is the secret dry rot inside the hearts of most adults, whether they can admit it or not.

Stairway of Surprise

Stairway of Surprise

6 steps to a creative life







- all these can be intensified infinitely.

We already think; we can learn to think more deeply, more livingly.

We already feel; we can learn to train our feeling-life away from ourselves so that we feel the world in its richness.

We already thank; we can learn a depth of gratitude that makes life and love intensely real.

There is something extra about the human soul. We have more than enough in us, perhaps too much.

Human are capable of endless creativity and distortion. We are the least predictable thing in creation.

Our very essence is surprise.

Simply represent intensification of inner functions that we all know we need to develop. We all could benefit from thinking with less distraction, more concentration, more invention. We all have difficulty in carrying out our intentions (doing). We all could benefit from turning our self-oriented emotions outward and understanding the world through feeling.

If we are honest, we admit that we can become more loving and so throw the weight of our awareness on the side of Good. Through opening or freedom from prejudice, we could find ourselves more available to the intuitions at the basic of this world and the intuitions still waiting for us to realize them.

We already sense that the moment of thanking makes us intimate with the source of what is given.

Thinking comes first since it is at the basic of all we do; every decision and every act and every understanding. We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts we make the world.

By strengthening our capacity to pay attention, they allow us to say the right words and have the fresh thought just when we need to. They gradually lead us out of the mire of distraction and confusion and allow us to practice what we need most; continual presence of mind.

Only a few people are willing to climb such a stairway. For those who do, it always helps. A stairway goes nowhere unless someone climbs it. And only you can begin....

Sayang's note to AH on the 5th of Sept. 2009

He'll be OK

'What is the definition of a good man?',

'What is the essence of being male?' and

'What does it mean to be a young man in today's world?'.

A life of purpose reveals the purpose of life.

You can never be wrong about destiny. Whether you succeed or not, you are proven to be right.

The universe has a purpose - the fulfillment of human creativity and happiness.

Don't judge your life. Every life is a step towards unity with God.

Don't struggle to find out why you are here - just look closer.

With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams.....it is still a beautiful world.

Be cheerful and strive to be happy!

note to AH 8/10/09

The One Thing That You cannot Do Without

The One Thing That You cannot Do Without

As a parent, what is the one thing you cannot do without? Most people would automatically say "love,"

which is certainly right. But then you have to ask a deeper question, "Where does love come from?"

By itself, the bond of love isn't enough, because it frays and sometimes breaks. We all raise our children according to what we call love, yet today's young people still have horrendous problems.

I think it goes deeper than love, the one thing you can't do without is INNOCENCE. Innocence is the source of love, innocence, as I am defining it here, isn't naivete but quite the opposite..........OPENNESS.

Innocence is the knowledge that you can guide children but never control them. We must be open to the person within every child, a person who is bound to be different from you, with a peaceful heart.

Life is never certain and your child are guaranteed to go in directions you cannot predict, to do things you would never do. Uncertainty is a given, because life is nothing but change. In innocence you can accept this, been telling myself - you will let go of your need to make your children conform to your preconceived notions.

I think, innocence is the knowledge that your child is yours and yet not yours.

Everyone is ultimately a child of spirit, we all grew up belonging to a family, but this is a very loose kind of belonging. Mostly we belong to ourselves, which means to our spirit or soul or essence.

It is easy to say that every child is unique and precious but what really makes it true is innocence, being able to look at a child as a soul embarked on the journey of soul-making. This means giving up some deeply imprinted patterns about parenting.

The most good we can do for ourselves spiritually is to play our role as parent with total love, conviction and purpose.

I think some people may argue against this whole nation, but every parent has had moments when the look in a child's eye told a tale of infinite wisdom, of experiences that go far beyond this particular moment in time and space. I know this has been true with my Adam. I've put him to bed, read stories to him, thrown a ball around and sat proudly through his violin and play recitals. The whole time I was doing this, I was a mummy and he were the kids.

But there have been other, rarer moment when the whole facade fell away. I've seen my son give me a glance that said," here we are again. What an interesting game we're playing this time." And I've seen him smile in such a way that I just knew he was on the verge of laughing out loud at the masks I've have put on to keep our roles alive.

In those precious glances and smiles I felt the bond of innocence, which is more powerful than love because it transcends love. When we can see past the role playing and still act our role with love and dedication, then I believe we are truly spiritual in your approach to parenting.

As parents, then, when we teach our children is no different from what we must keep teaching ourselves

Doing Good for the sake of doing good!

Doing Good for the sake of doing good!

People are unreasonable, illogical and self-centered.

Love them anyway.

If you do good, people will accuse you selfish with ulterior motives, I've been there

Do good anyway.

If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.

Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.

Do good anyway.

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.

Be honest and frank anyway.

The biggest person with the biggest ideas can be shut down by the smallest person with the smallest mind.

Think big anyway.

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight, am sure you heard of this.

Build anyway.

People really need help but may attack if you help them.

Help people anyway.

Give the world the best you have and you might get kick in the teeth.

Give the world the best you've got anyway.

Being You

Being You

If you can compare yourself with others,
you may become vain or bitter,
 for always there will be greater and lesser person than yourself.
 Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
 Keep interested in your own career, however humble, it is a real possession in changing fortunes of time.


What is it with boys?

Last night I drove into town for a meeting or at least tried to, and the situation with young men once again thrust into my face. Three cars ahead of me, the Parkway was blocked. A sedan, driven by a seventeen-year-old boy, with 4 friends in the car, had attempted to pull out into the traffic but failed to see a truck coming from behind. The truck had crushed the car almost in half and carried it fifty meters along the road. As I watched, 7 emergency vehicles gathered; fire, rescue, police, ambulances. Men worked in teams, calmly dealing with the situation.

The young driver was gradually cut out of the wreck unconscious. His 4 male passengers had varying injuries. Maleness was everywhere - inexperience and risk on the one side; competence, caring and steadiness on the other.

It kind of summed up for me the male situation. Men, when they turn out well, are wonderful.....but being young and male is so vulnerable, so prone to disaster. When I see Adam today, I have my hearts in my mouths - how will he turn out?

Today it's the girls who are more sure of themselves, motivated, hard working. Boys are oftern adrift in life, some failing at school, awkward in relationships, at risk for violence, alcohol, drugs and so on, here in Australia. They can't wait to be 18, the legal age of drinking.....how sad is it, that that is the one thing that they so looking forward to once they're into manhood.

The differences start early - visit any pre-school and see for yourself. The girls work together happily; the boys 'hoon' around like Indians around the wagon train. They annoy the girls and fight with each other.

In primary school the boys' work is often sloppy and inferior. By the time they reach grade three, most boys don't read books any more. They speak in one word sentences: ' Huh?' 'Awwyeah!' And in high school they don't join in with debating, concerts, councils or any non-sport activity. They pretend not to care about anything and that 'it's cool to be fool'.

Teenage boys are quite unsure about relationships and how to get girls to like them.( not that I am encouraging Adam, there's plenty at the moment who want to be his friend) This came from a friend who have 3 teenagers in the house. Some become painfully shy, others are aggressive and unpleasant when girls are around. They seem to lack even the most basic conversation skills.

And the bottom line, of course, is safety. By fifteen years of age boys are three times more likely than girls to die from all causes combined - but especially from accidents, violence and suicide.

Being a complete person

What do we wish for or what do I wish for and need? To me a right relating to myself needs to come first.

It is not easy to attain fulfillment. We have to work hard on ourselves to become well-directed, focused person, able to cope with events as they occur and to transform setback into valuable experiences that broaden the scope for future achievement. Anyone who strives for fulfillment will realize that this requires a process of self-development.

A basic need is a sense of purpose. This may sound obvious, but how many of us can make a clear statement about the purpose of our life? Platitudes come easily to our mind, but they are only vaguely related to our aspirations; they are no substitute for belief in the purpose of our own individual existence and trust in our ability to accomplish it. They can only develop out of our own discerning sense of destiny.

Can we read the signs in our biography that reveal our mission? The place where we were born, the family, the clime, the formative events that have unfolded in our biography so far, the rhythms and repetitions that have patterned our life-story, the events that have helped or hindered our progress, our gifts and weaknesses, our doubt and confidence, the conflicting goals of our ambition....all these spell out the message that point the way to our own life-task.

Nothing special will be achieved if we set goals for ourselves but fail to marshal the force and sharpen the skills that can attain them. This is a matter of will power - the will is a mysterious force in the human

soul. It can all too readily be enthralled by our habits and predilections....indeed also by addictions and so be largely unfree , it needs our devoted effort to wrest it free from these unconscious constriction.

This requires constant motivation and application, only through self-motivation can we achieve mastery conscious aspiration over the unconscious drives within us.

The way to personal fulfillment will remain close to us until we reach a clear sense of purpose and self discipline to guide us to our soul energies.

Contentment and fulfillment requires a balance in the feelings so that we do not loose control.

note to AH 21 Nov. 2003


When someone does kindness,

it always seems to me

That's the way God up in heaven

would like us all to be

For when we bring some pleasure

to another human heart

We have followed in His footsteps

and we've had a little part

In serving Him who loves us -

for I'm very sure it's true

That in serving those around us,

we serve and please Him too

note for AH


I have come to believe over and over again that what is most important to me must be spoken,

made verbal and shared, even at the risk of having it bruised or misunderstood.

It is vital to put our thoughts. When we have an important decision to make, we often say "I need to talk this through," or "I need a sounding board." Our beliefs and values come to life and become more tangible when we speak them or write them down in hope of sharing them.

When we keep our thoughts inside, its almost like we're hiding. So, we take the risk and speak. Afterwards, not only does the other person know more about us, we know more about ourselves.

I choose to speak my thoughts on what matters to me. It might be hard to find the right words, and the other person might not understand but it is worth the effort to share who I really am.

And character grows from habit! Character is simply habit long enough continued.

Persist in a certain practice for a couple of weeks and it becomes habit.

Persist in it for a couple of months and it becomes hard not to do it.

Keep at it for a couple of years and it changes who we are.

Whatever the habit, good or not so good, it is a part of us - an expression of our values.

How do others describe us? Picky, fun-loving, casual, charming, fickle, introverted, honest or intense?

Others come to their conclusions about us through observing our habits.

My character is a composite of my habits. I will decide carefully about embracing new habits, breaking old ones and choosing those I want to maintain.

note to AH 20th & 21st NOV. 2009

Another door open

When one door closes another opens. But we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door
that we fail to see the one that has opened for us.

Lingering in our regret is self-defeating. When we loose an opportunity or it becomes clear that a certain plan will not work, it's disappointing but we need not be consumed by the loss. There are other possibilities. Perhaps we've overlooked an option. Perhaps someone we know has a great idea. We can

take all that energy we might have given to disappointment and use it to begin searching for the other open door. We will notice it sooner if our gaze is up and our attitude expectant.

It's fine to feel disappointed when something doesn't work out, but you need to keep your antenna up and alert to alternatives.


Something brilliantly simple can teach us about relating, understanding and supporting one another, you have it built into you and so have I.

Our two hands.

See how they r with each other, how they relate.

There is grace and harmony in their togetherness, each has its own strength and weakness but they compensate and compliment each other.

They give us an ever-present yet ever-changing image of companionship, togetherness and friendship.

And it all happens so silently that we take their skill at relating for granted.

There is a deep wisdom and a heart-warming dynamic in this mutuality that is inscribed in each of us!!!!!!!

The Human Curtain - Ego!!!!

The curtain called ego is a multi-layered fabric, woven by every egocentric action and deed. The layers in this fabric include anger, jealousy, rage, worry,anxiety, intolerance, prejudice, resentment,frustration, pessimism and selfishness....you name it.
Clearly ego is the foundation of all forms of envy. It compels you to convince others that you're right when you're wrong.
Ego gives you the illusion that you act freely, but in reality you are captive to its desires.When ego express itself as envy, you're held hostage to constant pressure to out do your friends and colleagues.
You're in bondage to your reactive whims and self-absorbed desires.
You are captive to your job and financial pressures. You're a prisoner to other people's perceptions of you. You're incarcerated by your need for other people's acceptance.
You're in prison and you don't even know it.

The Human Ego - the curtain!!!!

Clearly, ego is the foundation of all forms of envy. It compels you to convince others that you're right even when you are wrong.

Ego gives you the illusion that you act freely, but in reality you are captive to its desires.
There you have it, plain and simple.
Ego does such a good job in hiding all the Light, including your true self (your soul), that you have forgotten and lost touch with all the true desires that radiate from your innermost being.

Instead, you are governed and ruled by the whims of ego. You work around the clock to fulfil its desires, no matter how shallow or self-destructive those desires may be.

These egocentric impulses control us 99.999 percent of the time. And if you have a difficult time believing this to be true the curtain is doing its job extremely well.

As a result, with the Light hidden, with our souls concealed, we flounder around in a world of darkness - one so dense that we can't see the hidden cause of our problems.

Until now.

Clearly, ego is the foundation of all forms of envy. It compels you to convince others that you're right even when you are wrong.

Ego gives you the illusion that you act freely, but in reality you are captive to its desires.