If you have poor boundaries, you might take responsibility for other people’s feelings and problems. Your life may be chaotic and full of drama.
Helpful tips for setting healthy boundaries:
Do it even though you feel selfish or guilty. You have a right to take care of yourself.
Start with the easiest ones.
Do it clearly without emotion and in as few words as possible.
Do not justify, apologise or rationalise.
You WILL be tested by others that are used to being able to control or manipulate you. Remain firm or just walk away.
Develop a support system of those who respect your boundaries.
Learning to set healthy boundaries takes time.
If you have unhealthy boundaries, you will attract those that will take advantage of them. So start attracting healthier people into your life