A good question to ask is,
“Do I really need to keep that person on the outskirts any more?
What would it take to give him or her a new title?
Haven’t I stayed angry or shut down long enough?”
Vengeance or protection or cold heartedness may have served a purpose in the past, but could forgiveness be a better balm now?
If so, take a few small steps toward expansion.
Push gently on the edges of your circle, and see if there is room within it for the exiled ones.
And like the proverbial pebble thrown in the pool, as your circle widens it will ripple out and set a widening pattern in motion for the world.