Abandonment to me is simply the sweet way of life forcing us
to focus more on our self to get through, by the absence of someone else.
If not, why are we always stronger after facing something alone?
If not, why are we always stronger after facing something alone?
I wonder if that wound ever heals completely.
Hmmm I do not believe that wound will ever heal completely.
It just takes more to trigger it, and it doesn't last as long.
Sometimes I think the scar remains to remind us with a wee twinge every once in awhile. If only to show us how far we've come.....but it may depend on how deep the wound goes, I do believe that many wounds can be seen all the way through to completion, but not every wound.
Sometimes I think the scar remains to remind us with a wee twinge every once in awhile. If only to show us how far we've come.....but it may depend on how deep the wound goes, I do believe that many wounds can be seen all the way through to completion, but not every wound.
I remember in a deep meditation, my 'voice' said to me: When
you are grounded in me, there is no abandonment!
Nice!
Didn't stop the tears, in case you were wondering!
But it did soothe.
Nice!
Didn't stop the tears, in case you were wondering!
But it did soothe.
The healing comes with holding ourselves and every aspect of
the wound in compassion. When the memory becomes swaddled in love it no longer
hurts.
Then we can see it as a lesson our soul came here to learn rather than a trauma we hold in our hearts.
Then we can see it as a lesson our soul came here to learn rather than a trauma we hold in our hearts.
Ironically, the person who is abandoned somehow could not or
would not acknowledge it even it looks obvious to others.
Only with this awareness we’ll be able to CHOOSE a healthier way to respond to the wound, let go of the wrong connection.
Only with this awareness we’ll be able to CHOOSE a healthier way to respond to the wound, let go of the wrong connection.
When I was younger, my abandonment wound was so deep that it
compelled me to hang on to connections that no longer served me.
If someone close to me looked away, I fused.
But that is no longer true.
Now I let go of the connection. The wound is never fully healed, but it has come a long way.
Some monsters get smaller and smaller over time, until they can barely impact on our daily lives.
If someone close to me looked away, I fused.
But that is no longer true.
Now I let go of the connection. The wound is never fully healed, but it has come a long way.
Some monsters get smaller and smaller over time, until they can barely impact on our daily lives.
Graduating from the school of heart knocks, one little test
at a time......
I feel our wounds might not be fully healed but they become
a source of deep creativity and transformation, a voice our being finds in its
scars that can turn anything into gold and light.
ps/smoh
