If someone close to me looked away, I fused. But that is no longer true.
Now I let go of the connection. The wound is never fully healed, but it has come a long way. Some monsters get smaller and smaller over time, until they can barely impact on our daily lives, graduating from the school of heart knocks, one little test at a time.
People often ask me how to manage the abandonment wound triggers when they come. This is no easy thing, although I have found that it helps to feel the presence of other people to combat the deep isolation that the wound knows best.
If you have struggled with a deep abandonment wound, how have you been able to manage it?
What has helped your healing process?
Abandonment gives us the chance to evolve trust, loneliness a chance to evolve intimacy and rejection a chance to evolve self-love.
Human Design System and the consequent years of reconditioning are what brought me this.
Awareness through meditation and other tools eases it somewhat, once the trigger is recognized, one can hold back the habitual response and if one can let those closest in on this so that they too can support you in your healing....once you start relaxing (through meditation) and loving yourself, it does become easier although the work is life-long.
Learning to be my own nurturer and practicing being kind and loving to myself, also watching for the triggers and acknowledging the fears for what they are helps keep things in perspective..
An understanding partner helps.
Realising that people will and does leave you and yet, if you let them go, they also often come back.
By becoming more aware of that which is beautiful and good in the world as Rumi said - that our wounds are just places where the light can enter; Learning, Feeling my connection to SOURCE and my world family through spiritual practice.
Being guided into opportunities for healing and becoming my biggest fan!