The thing we often forget when thinking about our own
changes and other’s changes is that real transformation takes real time.
No
matter how eager we are to see things shift and grow, it will seldom happen
rapidly.
This is particularly true with respect to emotional maturation. It is
often a many years long journey to empty these crowded vessels.
Developmental
stages are often like biological structures. To move from one stage of
maturation to another, we have to go through a broad range of experiences, integrate
their meaning, and try a new way of being on for size.
It is about becoming a
truly different being on many interconnected levels. I spent a lot of years in
hurry-up offense with my own transformation and those around me.
It was a waste
of time.
Sustainable change is built on a foundation of patience.
It takes strength perseverance --- TIME.
There is no definitive set timeline nor should there be. We
all grieve differently and we all filter and process to heal in our own manners
and ways.
That being said, respect that we are all individual and validate
whatever " SEASON" you are in and know it's ok and find your inner
strength to move on as best as you know how and as healthy as you can. Listen
to your own self and thy will be FINE!
Patience and time
ps/smoh
"Sometimes though fast changes can actually happen because
one looks back over the past and realizes all those lessons learned are worth
keeping. The best changes occur this way. Once you looked within the change was
dramatic. Riding the fence was good for a while but sometimes one has to touch
the ground."
