No need to forget about the abuser's deeds, as they are a lesson in boundaries going forward.
You can only heal your heart with your heart, and to do that we have to open the heart wide enough for its healing elixir to rain down on our pain.
Why bury the tears that heal us?
Why bury the emotions that fertilize our expansion?
Emotional release is a potent way to regain a genuine experience of the moment.