In whatever position you find yourself, first determine your objective. You have to know what your ultimate objective is.
What is your purpose?
When you are at a restaurant or pub with your family or friends, and some thug starts to get aggressive and rude, what is your ultimate objective in that situation?
Is it to save face or to look good in front of your friends and family?
Is it to look tough?
Those are selfish goals and can actually interfere with what should be your real goal – to make sure that you and those around you are safe.
This is your ultimate goal as a true being.
It is your duty to protect those around you, not to look like Cool or Tough.
Always keep your ultimate objective in mind when you have to deal with some thug in the street. This means that you have to remain calm and think rationally.
Keep your emotions out of the equation.
The best way to make sure that everyone remains safe is to keep things from getting physical. Use your mind and your wit to defeat your opponent.
Manipulate the situation without them ever knowing that they had been manipulated. If you have to swallow a little pride in order to accomplish your goal, do it.
That is a small price to pay to keep those you love safe.