I like the idea of putting more attention on receiving from the person rather than on merely agreeing or disagreeing with them.
I feel a bit sheepish like how did it take me so long to see this.
Even in the desire of another to convince us in their view point there is a deeper impulse within them that cries out to us to recognize and know as an aspect of them.
Once we apprehend it a connection is established and the joy can flow between us.
Specifically, it's better to be in a "student role" in life so you are receiving, regardless of role or context. Good teachers listen and receive their student's point of view.
Asserting one's view just seems like compensation, some conditioning regarding putting one's point of view forward, and probably includes some narcissistic and existential validation.
Neither agreeing nor disagreeing but focusing on what people is saying, yes. Curiosity is needed and a wish to be present.
"I hear you and do probably not agree. Tell me more so I can understand."
I have practiced that and common respect was the result. The thinking types are more concerned with being right and the "truth," whereas feeling types are more concerned about maintaining relationship.
As a feeling type, I have learned to banter about ideas, to listen, to change my view when another is offered. So often I don't feel that happens. At this point, often anyway, intellectual discussions are just playing with symbols.
My experience of Improve is such a great training ground for being, simply, present with another. A basic "rule" of improve is "accept all offers."
It has taken me 54 years to begin to grasp this. And a few lost relationships along the way. Working on directing my passion for people, not at people.
When I am looking to deepen rapport through agreement, I will sometimes add, "I understand. If I were you, I imagine I would feel exactly the same way."
This is no arbitrary rule that someone made up, it is simply what works. To deny what is offered brings the flow to a halt, to accept, allows it to move forward.