Thursday, February 18, 2016
Its time we stop hiding..
I am always surprised when friends apologize for being in a bad mood, or sharing their life challenges when I bump into them, as though there is something wrong with sharing our difficulties with each other.
This is yet another example of the bullshit world we have created in, where we are only acceptable to each other if we share good news.
I often wonder if we are resistant to other’s bad news because we are trying to bypass our own difficulties. Whatever it is, this has to shift.
We aren’t going to co-create a genuinely positive world until we can hold the space for each other’s shadow.
Better an authentic frown than an inauthentic smile any day. A smile that is built on a pretentious foundation isn’t a smile at all.
I know we often want it happy and positive, but that’s just not where much of humanity is. Many of us are overwhelmed with pain, undigested sadness, unexpressed anger, unseen truths. This is where we are at, as a collective. So we have two choices.
We can continue to pretend it’s not there, cover it over, shame and shun it in ourselves and others, distract and detach whenever possible.
Or, we can face it heart-on, own it within ourselves, look for it in others with compassion, and create a culture that is focused on authenticity and healthy emotional release.
If we continue to push it all down, we are both creating illness, and delaying our collective expansion.
But if we can just own the shadow, express it, release it, love each other through it we can finally graduate from the School of Heart Knocks and begin to enjoy this magnificent life as we were intended. Pretending the pain isn’t there just embeds it further.
Let’s illuminate it instead.
The path of life is not soft and sweet.
It is not artificially blissful and feigned forgiving.
It is not fearful of divisiveness.
It is not afraid of its own shadow.
It is not afraid of losing popularity when it speaks its truth.
It will not beat around the bush where directness is essential.
It has no regard for vested interests that cause suffering.
It is benevolent and it is fiery and it is cuttingly honest in its efforts to liberate itself and humanity from the ego ties that bind.
Ordinary life is the miracle, as it is the mundane and the everyday.
Every joy, every pain, every moment of profound doubt is none other than that which we have always sought.
No special revelation is required here. We never need to wait for grace. This blessing cannot be transmitted by special beings taught by enlightened gurus, bought or sold. It is simpler, closer, more freely available, and more intimate.
love light and peace