"Changing yourself takes time; it is incremental and
can seem like hypocrisy to judging observers. While developing you you may
reverse opinions, contradict yourself and seem inconsistent with your beliefs
and actions.
Don't allow people to control you with the consistency trap.
Consistency has been weapon.
Don't let consistency be used against your holistic being
and full-spectrum intelligence.
You are not illogical.
You are not stupid.
Being 'smart' is a total spectrum of behaviours; it is about
balance not just intellect.
Your opinions matter and you can even change them! You can
say things that are completely wrong and still be a part of a legitimate
dialogue.
You can do things that are completely wrong and still be a
part of a legitimate evolution.
You are an amorphous being and can change your views,
opinions, ideas, and beliefs at will and as frequently as you desire.
You are allowed to be inconsistent, contradictory and
unbound by conventions such as sanity, intelligence or making sense.
When you reserve the right to total contradiction, you
reserve the self-acceptance to be human.
"In every or any situation, regardless of the
mitigating factors, you can always change your mind. If what you are thinking,
saying or doing in response to any person or experience is not bringing you
peace, change your mind! Changing your mind about anything or anyone transforms
how those things or persons impact your life."
— Iyanla Vanzant
Accepting a person who is not consistent is difficult
because it means you cannot depend on them to have unchanging values and ideas,
which is another way of saying you cannot "understand" them.
People often want to "understand" others to
"know their place" for strategic self-positioning, which is
ultimately about control and safeguarding their advantage.
If you make a big life-change it may literally shatter those
around you because they can only accept and "love" you "their
way."
They may judge you as unstable, but really they are
unstable, which is why they may fall-apart as you move forward. It is really
their illusion of knowing and control that has ended.
The inconsistent person is free, and freedom is really what
people fear most.
Who says you have to be the same person tomorrow that you
are today?
It is a ridiculous notion.
Change is inevitable.
Your personal and spiritual evolution will always be seen as
a betrayal by those whose values you abandon.
You have a right to change your values, beliefs and ideas.
The discomfort you feel when you attempt to change is just
the social control that surrounds you becoming more obvious and bearing down on
you.
There is nothing more spiritual than freedom and it is very
spiritual to violate old beliefs for new values.
"Forgive the past. It is over. Learn from it and let go. People are constantly changing and growing. Do not cling to a limited, disconnected, negative image of a person in the past. See that person now. Your relationship is always alive and changing."
— Brian L. Weiss
Remember.
We so easily sling judgements on others, yet we don't want
judgements levied against us when we change our ideals.
Everyone just wants acceptance.
Accepting others is really about accepting yourself, because
when you accept others you are freed from your own inner-conflict.
When you quit judging others you can be your true-self,
rather than being emotionally embroiled with other people's lifestyles and
beliefs.
Your spiritual journey is about freedom, but not just your
freedom everyone's freedom."
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