Learning to master inner-calm and non-response to what seems like negativity is a life practice. When you release yourself from the need for approval and control you can stop punishing yourself and others.
The fulcrum of resistance is in your mind where you pit yourself against the weight of the external.
Release yourself from the contest.
No one can make you feel anything;
you are completely responsible for how you feel.
Until you quit loving your pain, loving your abuse and loving the contest, you will always be a part of other people's games of torment and inner-suffering.
Next time someone comes after you, ask yourself in that moment,
"who am I, and who do I choose to be?"
Imagine a small calm pool of water inside of yourself. Keep the pool still and serene. Don't let the water slosh out onto the floor.
Look upon the troubled waters of the other person, and simply have understanding nothing more.
In your serenity there is a clarity, strength and correctness that is beyond the petty scuffles of the moment a greater truth.
It is the truth of who you are; beautiful, calm, secure, open, willing and safe.
If the whole world rejected you and you didn't believe any of your thoughts about it, you'd be completely at peace....
ps/smoh
