Where does telling the difficult truth fit into being happy
or being right???
Would you rather be loved or be right?
As a person who likes to be "right", I'd say it
means that being right sometimes interferes with happiness...especially any
kind of relationship.
Most things just aren't important enough to get into a
dither about.
A few things are.
Those are the ones that deserve my energy.
We always have before us--healthy ego/fat sloppy ignorant
ego...that is the question.
Ego is inherently self-serving and our spiritual challenge
is to witness the ego's pathetic and desperate need to nurture its own self
importance.
Like all human beings, if we are lucky, we spend our
formative years building up a healthy ego that can go forth in the world,
establish boundaries, and express our soul’s purpose.
And, we spend the rest of our life learning
how to tame that ego when it gets all puffed up with being special and being
right.
If we want to reach our full potential; if we want to have
love in our life; if we want to experience the wonder of being alive, we will
come to understand that every human being is no more or less special than we
are, and that we can never be right all the time.
This is what spiritual maturity looks like.
ECKHART:
"Every ego wants to be
special. If it can't be special by being superior to others, it's also quite
happy with being especially miserable.
Someone will say,
"I have a
headache," and another says,
"I've had a headache for weeks."
People actually compete to see who is more miserable!
The ego doing that is
just as big as the one that thinks it's superior to someone else. If you see in
yourself that unconscious need to be special, and then you are already free,
because when you recognize all the patterns of the ego…
The ego wants to be right
all the time. And it loves conflict with others. It needs enemies, because it
defines itself through emphasizing others as different.
Nations do it,
religions do it, and people do it."
That was a profound teaching moment.
ps/smoh
