I’ve been thinking a lot about the meaningful distinction between inquiry and assumption. Those connections that remain inquiry-based - where each person asks the other about their intentions, motivations, and actions have a tendency to last far longer than those based on assumption.
When we can allow ourselves to remain genuinely curious about why someone behaved as they did, we keep the gate between our hearts open.
We co-create an ongoing opportunity to grow individually and together.
When we rely on assumptions as our interpretive structure- particularly those lodged in our own issues and limiting beliefs- we are far more likely to close the door to the connection.
The simple truth is that there are often countless possibilities for why someone responded as they did. And the assumption that we make is often misguided. Better we inquire- wherever possible- so that the connection has an opportunity to grow in awareness and understanding. Being curious about those that matter to us keeps the fires of relatedness alight.
We often hear people discuss the gift of the gab, where talking or asking is really a key to the job description.
Asking with genuine curiosity always brings along amazing surprises, friendships and real connection by truly opening more doors and hearts that we can imagine
It is so important to feel into the situation instead of thinking about it, using open inquiry instead of assumptions.
It keeps us connected in the heart and not separated by our minds.
I guess you can never make assumptions for our needs. We need to communicate even if we don't understand.
I believe we just need to have the courage to ask the questions.
ps/smoh
