The healthiest relationships are not necessarily the ones
that look 'happiest' to the naked eye. They aren't necessarily the ones where
two people are always seen holding hands,
giggling,
dancing and singing with
the butterflies,
where nothing ever 'goes wrong' and life is always perfect.
External perfection can easily mask internal devastation,
disconnection and a quiet, unspoken desperation to be free, or at least alone.
The healthiest relationships are the honest ones, the ones
that might not always look 'happy' or 'carefree' from the outside.
The ones that might not fit the image of what a relationship
'should' or 'must' look or feel like.
Where the relationship
is forever renewed in the furnace of honesty.
Where there may be ruptures,
misunderstandings, even intense feelings of doubt and disconnection, BUT there
is a mutual willingness to face this seeming mess head-on!
To look - with open
eyes - at the present rupture, and not turn away or cling to the past.
To sit
together in the midst of mutual shattered dreams and expectations, and work to
find a place of reconnection, here, now, today.
Where relationship is seen as
the ultimate yoga - an ongoing and deepening adventure and rediscovery of each
other, a constant meeting, not a future destination, fixed conclusion, point of
arrival, or a convenient story to tell others during polite conversation.
Namaste
ps/smoh
ps/smoh
