When you are able to listen deeply to another, you are
hearing the overtones of intention, the undertones of emotion, and the melody
of their souls.
You are hearing the universe in miniature.
Deep listening is an art that can be learned. One begins by
attending to familiar sounds-wind, rain, the purring of a cat, the sounds of
dinner being made, the pouring of liquid into a glass, the sound of the heating
system or air conditioner.
You begin to realize that you are hearing not only
with your ears, but also with the bones of your skull. Soon it seems that your
entire body is listening.
A sharp sound startles your flesh. A lovely melody
relaxes and smooths your body.
If you would like to try a fascinating
experiment, listen to your favourite music as if you are the instrument and the
music is playing you.
You will understand the words of T.S. Eliot in "The
Dry Salvages," when he writes of
Music heard so deeply
That it is not heard at all, but you are the music
While the music lasts.
It is a beautiful experience to be truly listened to. It is
a gift also to truly listen to another. This was one of the most powerful
things I learnt during my coaching learning how to really listen and be there
for the person.
ps/smoh
