Because of all the pressure to be partnered, so many people walk around feeling badly if they are on their own, and many others stay where they don’t belong for fear that they will be seen as a failure outside of relationship.
Surely all of this misses the point.
What is most important is that each of us lives a life that is true to path, whatever that means to us. For some, their sacred purpose is inextricably linked to love relationship.
It is there that they excavate their deepest meaning. Yet others are called in a different direction and find their purpose in their creative life, in their work, in their individual spiritual practice.
Everyone’s soul-scriptures are unique to their own journey. The important thing in life is not whether we find the “one”, but whether we find the path.
If one person doesn't want the relationship, then it's simply not a fit.
No sense trying to figure out why we think they don't want it.
No sense blaming it on their commitment issues. No sense waiting around for them to realize they wanted it after all.
Because it doesn't matter why they don't want it.
What matters is that we want to be met heart-on by a fully engaged partner.
If they don't want it, then we don't want it, because we don't want to be with someone who is not there for it fully.
That's the thing about love relationship - it's an agreement that has to be signed by both souls.
If one doesn't sign, then nothing has been lost.
If it's not a fit for them, it's not a fit for us either.
On to the next adventure we go...
However love arrives at your door, it is always a brave path.
It is like talking a long walk in a deep dark forest and never quite knowing where your soul will land. It is not for the faint of heart, nor is it ever to be taken lightly.
You have to be tenacious.
You have to be innovative.
You have to be willing to drop to your knees time and again before its wisdom.
And you have to forge the tools you will need from your own imaginings, as very few who have walked the path before can describe the terrain.
Most fell into quick-sand soon after the romantic phase ended. Relationship is always a spiritual practice, even when we imagine it otherwise.
ps/smoh
