No one can figure out your inner worth but you.
Others can encourage and compliment us, but only we have the power to fully recognize our own value.
No amount of praise will change the opinion of someone who believes he or she has little worth.
When we are thoroughly convinced of our own worth, we are unstoppable. Undue criticism and difficult times may rattle us, but nothing can shatter that inner knowledge.
I am precious. I am of infinite value just the way I am.
Tuesday, March 29, 2011
Monday, March 28, 2011
What's works, what doesn't
If it's working, keep doing it.
If it's not working, stop doing it.
If you don't know what to do, don't do anything.
That sounds too easy, but it's a good philosophy.
When frustrated by something, this little serenity exercise helps: Take a sheet of paper and draw a line down the middle. One side, write - 'What works' and on the other write - 'What doesn't works'
When we starts our lists, it's amazing how much clarity comes just in writing our thoughts.
When I'm frustrated, I'll remember to take a deep breath and give the problem some thought. I will get back to the basics of what works and what doesn't, then act accordingly.
to AH 29/3/11
If it's not working, stop doing it.
If you don't know what to do, don't do anything.
That sounds too easy, but it's a good philosophy.
When frustrated by something, this little serenity exercise helps: Take a sheet of paper and draw a line down the middle. One side, write - 'What works' and on the other write - 'What doesn't works'
When we starts our lists, it's amazing how much clarity comes just in writing our thoughts.
When I'm frustrated, I'll remember to take a deep breath and give the problem some thought. I will get back to the basics of what works and what doesn't, then act accordingly.
to AH 29/3/11
Sunday, March 27, 2011
A Higher love is uplifting
A higher love understands that as guardian over another person's feelings we need to lift them up spiritually when his/her own belief in himself or herself falters.
The beauty of it all is that as we offer inspiration to our beloved, we inspire ourselves. Conversely, when we drag him or her down, we drags ourselves down as well.
Inspiration could mean a number of different things to different people.
To me, it means....
- when our loved one doubts their beauty, we remind them how beautiful they are
- we encourage them to stretch and grow, even if we fear he will 'grow' away from us
- we stretch and grow in order to become a support instead of a burden
- we applaud them when they are succeeding, we don't begrudge them success
- we don't buy into dependency, but encourage them to stand on their own two feet....this requires tough love!
The whole of the human species is crying out for love. If we all take time to look into our hearts, we will ultimately feel complete and connected within ourselves and as part of the human family.
Getting out into the world can bring silent screams of terror. But we won't find what we want by retreating. In going back, we will only find the silent screams of helplessness.
The beauty of it all is that as we offer inspiration to our beloved, we inspire ourselves. Conversely, when we drag him or her down, we drags ourselves down as well.
Inspiration could mean a number of different things to different people.
To me, it means....
- when our loved one doubts their beauty, we remind them how beautiful they are
- we encourage them to stretch and grow, even if we fear he will 'grow' away from us
- we stretch and grow in order to become a support instead of a burden
- we applaud them when they are succeeding, we don't begrudge them success
- we don't buy into dependency, but encourage them to stand on their own two feet....this requires tough love!
The whole of the human species is crying out for love. If we all take time to look into our hearts, we will ultimately feel complete and connected within ourselves and as part of the human family.
Getting out into the world can bring silent screams of terror. But we won't find what we want by retreating. In going back, we will only find the silent screams of helplessness.
Saturday, March 26, 2011
Clear expression
The niftiest turn of phrase, the most elegant flight of rhetorical fancy, isn't worth beans next to a clear thought clearly expressed.
When writing or speaking, we may get carried away with complicated words and sentence structure. It sounds sophisticated. But is it all that sophistication if a clear meaning was not communicated to the reader or listener?
In successful communication, the goal is to transfer one of our thoughts into the mind of another is our fancy words and terminology detract from the goal, they are worthless.
So speak and write clearly when trying to share thoughts with others. We don't need to use complicated sentences to describe our ideas.
When writing or speaking, we may get carried away with complicated words and sentence structure. It sounds sophisticated. But is it all that sophistication if a clear meaning was not communicated to the reader or listener?
In successful communication, the goal is to transfer one of our thoughts into the mind of another is our fancy words and terminology detract from the goal, they are worthless.
So speak and write clearly when trying to share thoughts with others. We don't need to use complicated sentences to describe our ideas.
Monday, March 7, 2011
If ever in doubts..
Be willing to let anything happen, nothing is formed.
Nothing dies. Everything is simply in transition. Listen to those inner signals that help you make the right choices - no matter what anyone thinks.
Trust your intuitive voices and go with them. Don't let emotions immobilize you. View them as choices.
Conflict cannot survive without your participation. When you know that you're in charge of your intentions, then you'll come to know that you're in charge of your entire world.
You create your thoughts, your thoughts create your intentions, ...and your intentions create your reality.
Your soul.....that inner, quiet, empty space...is yours to consult. It will always guide you in the right direction.
Do what you want, as long as you're not interfering with anyone else's right to do the same - this is the definition of morality.
Nothing dies. Everything is simply in transition. Listen to those inner signals that help you make the right choices - no matter what anyone thinks.
Trust your intuitive voices and go with them. Don't let emotions immobilize you. View them as choices.
Conflict cannot survive without your participation. When you know that you're in charge of your intentions, then you'll come to know that you're in charge of your entire world.
You create your thoughts, your thoughts create your intentions, ...and your intentions create your reality.
Your soul.....that inner, quiet, empty space...is yours to consult. It will always guide you in the right direction.
Do what you want, as long as you're not interfering with anyone else's right to do the same - this is the definition of morality.
Friday, March 4, 2011
Marriage
Art is a hard mistress, and there is no art quite as hard as that so being a wife.
So many women exhaust their artistic power in getting married, which is, after all, a comparatively easy business. It takes a perfect artist to remain married – married in the perfect sense of the term; but most of us have to be content to muddle through.
Imagine a girl call upon without a single lesson to produce a tune – a lot of tune –in fact – one never ending succession of harmonies from the most difficult instrument in the world. Note that the instrument not only gets grumpy in cold weather and skittish in the spring – not only slacks or breaks its string with every change of temperature , but becomes tempestuous over a tight shoes, broody over an out-of-date egg, and cross , sulky or mirthful for reason that no sane woman can understand.
That is what the average wife has to reckon with, and if she intends to play the game – humiliating as some may think it; ‘he’ will loom largely on the horizon all her life.
I hope she may find it worthwhile to take a few hints from an old hand. Don’t think that there is any satisfactory substitute for love between husband and wife. Respect and esteem make a good foundation, but they won’t do alone.
Don’t think that, because you have married for love, you can never know a moment’s unhappiness. Life is not a bed of roses, but love will help to extract the thorns. Expectation of life to be all sunshine will shock you, besides, if there are no clouds, you will lose the opportunity of showing your husband what a good chum you can be.
So many women exhaust their artistic power in getting married, which is, after all, a comparatively easy business. It takes a perfect artist to remain married – married in the perfect sense of the term; but most of us have to be content to muddle through.
Imagine a girl call upon without a single lesson to produce a tune – a lot of tune –in fact – one never ending succession of harmonies from the most difficult instrument in the world. Note that the instrument not only gets grumpy in cold weather and skittish in the spring – not only slacks or breaks its string with every change of temperature , but becomes tempestuous over a tight shoes, broody over an out-of-date egg, and cross , sulky or mirthful for reason that no sane woman can understand.
That is what the average wife has to reckon with, and if she intends to play the game – humiliating as some may think it; ‘he’ will loom largely on the horizon all her life.
I hope she may find it worthwhile to take a few hints from an old hand. Don’t think that there is any satisfactory substitute for love between husband and wife. Respect and esteem make a good foundation, but they won’t do alone.
Don’t think that, because you have married for love, you can never know a moment’s unhappiness. Life is not a bed of roses, but love will help to extract the thorns. Expectation of life to be all sunshine will shock you, besides, if there are no clouds, you will lose the opportunity of showing your husband what a good chum you can be.
Family skeleton
We all have a mix bag of happy and sad memories in our family histories. There may be devastating events and traits that no one wants to talk about.
Sometime families hide the truth instead of healing. If feels like a broken bone that was never set correctly and so mended off-kilter. In the end, hiding the truth doesn't help anyone.
What does it mean to make the ugly truth dance? It might mean using humor. It might mean finding creative healing ways to tell the truth in our lives, even if the rest of the family isn't eager to do so.
As we tell the truth in our little corner of the family, we feel freer.
We can find ways to acknowledge our family skeletons, we can be honest about them in creative ways. We can even do it in a way that brings joy and freedom to others.
Sometime families hide the truth instead of healing. If feels like a broken bone that was never set correctly and so mended off-kilter. In the end, hiding the truth doesn't help anyone.
What does it mean to make the ugly truth dance? It might mean using humor. It might mean finding creative healing ways to tell the truth in our lives, even if the rest of the family isn't eager to do so.
As we tell the truth in our little corner of the family, we feel freer.
We can find ways to acknowledge our family skeletons, we can be honest about them in creative ways. We can even do it in a way that brings joy and freedom to others.
Thursday, March 3, 2011
Sudden clarity
One's mind has a way of making itself up in the background, and it suddenly becomes clear what one means to do.
We wrestle with choice for weeks. Should we finished our education? We weigh the pros and cons, we research. Something still doesn't feel right. We set deadline and talk to someone we respect.
Then, suddenly, in the midst of that conversation, we realize we don't want to go back to school at all right now. Come to think of it, we have some opportunities at work that might provide the same education.
Our instinct was telling us something all along. It's interesting how often that happens.
Labouring over a choice, we use all our standard decision making tools, only to discover a wild card that changes everything.
"That makes perfect sense," we say. "Why didn't I think of that sooner?"
So don't get too anxious about your decision; You'll know what you need to do when the time comes.
(to AH with love)
We wrestle with choice for weeks. Should we finished our education? We weigh the pros and cons, we research. Something still doesn't feel right. We set deadline and talk to someone we respect.
Then, suddenly, in the midst of that conversation, we realize we don't want to go back to school at all right now. Come to think of it, we have some opportunities at work that might provide the same education.
Our instinct was telling us something all along. It's interesting how often that happens.
Labouring over a choice, we use all our standard decision making tools, only to discover a wild card that changes everything.
"That makes perfect sense," we say. "Why didn't I think of that sooner?"
So don't get too anxious about your decision; You'll know what you need to do when the time comes.
(to AH with love)
Sentimentality
What was hard to bear is sweet to remember!
A tough time can become memorialized in our mind. In hindsight, we see more clearly the valuable aspects of what was difficult at the time.
We had no money for dining out, but the simple recipes we relied on are our comfort foods today.
The job was stressful, but we've never since worked with such a positive group of people.
The house was always a mess, but how we miss the energy of the kids when they were young.
Even as we appreciate the beauty of the past, we can be more mindful about noticing the beauty in our lives today.
When we remember a particularly hard time in our life, treasure some of the moments we experienced.
As we look at our current challenges, we will try to recognize the precious aspect of our life right now.
A tough time can become memorialized in our mind. In hindsight, we see more clearly the valuable aspects of what was difficult at the time.
We had no money for dining out, but the simple recipes we relied on are our comfort foods today.
The job was stressful, but we've never since worked with such a positive group of people.
The house was always a mess, but how we miss the energy of the kids when they were young.
Even as we appreciate the beauty of the past, we can be more mindful about noticing the beauty in our lives today.
When we remember a particularly hard time in our life, treasure some of the moments we experienced.
As we look at our current challenges, we will try to recognize the precious aspect of our life right now.
Wednesday, March 2, 2011
Time versus money
"Dollars cannot buy yesterday"
In eulogies, people are rarely lauded for how much money they made. They almost always are remembered for how they spent their time.
When all is said and done, schedules and finances are important, but our time is more valuable. Time is the most important investment we can make in our relationships.
Wasted money may be recovered eventually; lost time is gone forever.
So when you weighing decisions that involve both time and money, please remember that time is priceless.
note to AH
In eulogies, people are rarely lauded for how much money they made. They almost always are remembered for how they spent their time.
When all is said and done, schedules and finances are important, but our time is more valuable. Time is the most important investment we can make in our relationships.
Wasted money may be recovered eventually; lost time is gone forever.
So when you weighing decisions that involve both time and money, please remember that time is priceless.
note to AH
Our highest business
We are involved in a life that passes understanding, our highest business is our daily life.
Life can feel a little mundane at times, but think for a moment of the miracles of our daily life.
Think of the processes going on in our bodies without our awareness, the technologies we take for granted, and the intricacies of the routine we've created.
Think about how well it all flows. It may be daily life routine because it has become familiar to us, but each day we live many wonders.
I am grateful for my daily life, it is an honor to live it. My day to day routine holds many mysteries, even though it has become ordinary and comfortable to me.
Life can feel a little mundane at times, but think for a moment of the miracles of our daily life.
Think of the processes going on in our bodies without our awareness, the technologies we take for granted, and the intricacies of the routine we've created.
Think about how well it all flows. It may be daily life routine because it has become familiar to us, but each day we live many wonders.
I am grateful for my daily life, it is an honor to live it. My day to day routine holds many mysteries, even though it has become ordinary and comfortable to me.
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